I have never heard that term, but it certainly is descriptive of what has happened to me. I have times where my desire to be truly female is overwhelming. Talking about it is really no relief so I don't talk about it much. My circumstance prevents me from transitioning and I have to accept that regardless of if I want to or not.Georgia(SO) wrote: ...
Somebody somewhere used the term "gender flare". Man, that describes it.
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In re-reading the thread, I noticed that Anita took exception to what I had written about a middle age man attracted to a younger more attractive woman, was in a similar situation. She noted that for herself she needed the relationships with men as a validation of her "girlself" that she did not need as a man.
I believe that what Anita said is true about herself, being a transgendered person. But the middle aged man many times needs the same validation about his "manself". So in that regard, I believe my analogy still holds true. The need for validation still does not justify cheating. Yes, it sucks to have these conflicting feelings, but I believe at times, we all have them.
Love always,
Elizabeth