Anthony wrote:
I'd agree with Anthony there. He might be answering questions in a way that tries to thread the needle between what he thinks is acceptable and what he might be feeling. It doesn't have to be deep dark secrets to produce this effect. And as Anthony said, he may feel one than one way about some of it, and it hasn't been sorted out yet.I have a hunch that a conflict in your husband is creating this state of confusion in you. Like he doesn't just feel one thing about his CDing, but more than one - and his way of dealing with this conflict is think up stuff that doesn't really hold water under pressure.
When I think about those sites, or get solicited by their owners, I feel like I'm being exploited. It's not just the higher prices, it's also that they're labeling me a "man in a dress." That is not how I want to be seen or thought of, even if it's someone who doesn't know me personally. So your husband may not want to be seen as a man in a dress, either, even if he doesn't want to be a woman. Logically, it makes no sense, but the two are not equivalent. Wearing women's clothing made for men seems like an insult to me, whereas choosing to wear women's clothing is a choice that I make alone, with no one looking over my shoulder, so to speak.