Noeleena wrote:so now im weary of and you can quess why of dressers , so now i dont have any thing to do with them because what i see its a sexual detail im not prepared to have to worry about or put up with sad yet true , some use dressing as a means to sex,
I empathize with you Noeleena. Harassment is not acceptable, period.
Here’s my take on it: A person’s sexual orientation is one thing, but their character is another. There is a diverse population of CDs, and to put it simply; the nature of a genetic male dressing as a female includes many whose solitary purpose is that of a sexual means. When I began exposing myself to the cross dressing community as a whole I quickly found that there are many wonderful individuals that share my lifestyle (habit, desire, hobby, need, emotional state… whatever you’d like to refer to cross dressing as) as well as those with a deviant or selfish purpose. Like any other group (classification), there are the good and bad.
I’m not a prude, nor am I easily offended. I have always been sexually open, and I do have a lot of experience on the subject, lol. BUT, my next statement has the potential to overturn a few apple carts.
The cyber world is vast, and there are plenty of porn sites available for those who wish to entertain their lascivious needs. I personally opted to join this forum because it is geared toward CDs and their spouses/SOs. The posts here are very gentle in comparison to some of the other stuff I’ve found, and that alone makes it comfortable for me to participate. I opt to avoid threads that have a carnal orientation. Not because I’m offended, rather because I wish to endorse and promote a more publically acceptable image of a cross dresser. I dress because it fulfills a clear connection to a feminine side within, and being able to exploit that by means of physically expressing myself as a woman brings a sense of content. Simple as that, but so very hard to put into words. That being said, I’ve also found there are many public opportunities for the cross dresser. You may not have them in your area, or have the means to travel to such events, but they do exist. With a little research I’ve found what events cater to what type of crowd so with a little preparation I’m hoping to avoid some discomfort. However, being a realist I realize that I’ll always run the risk of being judged, squawked at, or harassed. It’s a result of human nature. But that isn’t going to deter me from wearing a dress and makeup when I want to feel pretty just as I’m not deterred from wearing my rugged clothes while I’m playing in the dirt, riding my motorcycle, etc. That is who I am too.
Be yourself, find your comfort zone, and above all, be respectful of others. Karma often speaks loudly.
