Androgyny Sexy to Women?

Philippa · Post by **Philippa** » Thu Oct 09, 2008 2:07 pm

...sorry for sounding like an idiot, but what does androgyny mean, or however you spell it!

Post by **DonnaT** » Thu Oct 09, 2008 2:30 pm

Androgyny is a term derived from the Greek words ανήρ (anér, meaning man) and γυνή (gyné, meaning woman) that can refer to either of two related concepts about gender. Either the mixing of masculine and feminine characteristics, be it fashion statements, or the balance of "anima and animus" in psychoanalytic theory.

More at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Androgyny

Philippa · Post by **Philippa** » Thu Oct 09, 2008 2:47 pm

oh thanks

i get it now, not confused anymore!

Wendae · Post by **Wendae** » Thu Aug 13, 2009 7:46 pm

I suspect that many of us found that those we are married to don't find us sexy as a cd or even someone they want to see dressed. I guess that's fair if they didn't know about it coming into a marriage. I don't mind women wearing men's clothing but if they started wearing briefs with a cheater, took hormones to develope body hair, a beard, let their legs and everything else get hairy I don't think I could handle that as a husband and I shouldn't expect my wife to be gaga over me coming out. Don't get me wrong I've known women like this and got along with them fine but wouldn't want a romantic relationship with them.
30 years ago I made my last attempt to win her over and was told that she didn't want a sister or a girl friend. I'm allowed some freedoms as I've posted before but getting dressed or talking about it is not an option. It's frustrating but after 44 years I've learned to manage.

Post by **KimberlyS** » Fri Aug 14, 2009 2:42 am

Wendae, it is frustrating at times. But I have learned that life is constantly full of choices. Each choice has pluses and minuses of which some we may not know until later. We hopefully make the choices going though life that will make us the happiest because we can not have everything we want as we must take the minuses with each of the pluses we choose. I have also learned the hard way we can not let the minuses be the focus of our life as it will become very dark. Thus I try to focus my life on the pluses in life making life much more enjoyable.

We talk so often about balance in life and that is so what it is about. Focusing on the pluses in life, managing and enjoying what we have. Making it work for yourself and those around you.

DanteCarrie (FTM) · Post by **DanteCarrie (FTM)** » Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:28 am

I only find males with long hair attractive. they just don't have the features for shirt hair. I like my men quite short, slender, NOT too muscular. obvious amounts of muscle are gross to me. delicatish features.

and I love the idea of a man in 'women's' clothes. very erotic. too bad my lover won't do it.

However i do like facial hair odly enough and happy trails but I'm attracted to so few men its hard to measure.

I like women who are 'feminine' in a gothic way or cute androgynous or even rather masculine as long as slim and beautiful.
so hell yeah androgynous is sexy. If it were up to me the whole world would be gothic androgynous petite people. kind of like a really warped shire from lord of the rings lol

Anne Bonny · Post by **Anne Bonny** » Sat Dec 05, 2009 11:53 pm

I am who I am or to thine own self be true. No affectations dressed or not. I love to wear dresses but I remain who I am. Nothing fake. If I am feeling more feminine and can I will dress and do housework or pay bills or watch TV. If I am working outside, though I might like more feminine work clothing I will underdress but my outer clothing is male. I keep up appearances for the neighbors and my family. Some day when the kids are off at school I may dress more openly around the house. I have traveled in the car in female clothing. Perhaps someday I may venture out. The angst is self imposed I do hope someday to end it and be more open. I struggle with all of this moment to moment every day.

Bayne · Post by **Bayne** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 10:28 pm

I know several cisgender women who have expressed to me they find androgyny and crossdressing and transsexuals seriously hot.

One regularly mentions how much she would like to have sex with Jeffree Starr. Another loves trans and bi and gay pornography. Almost all are in relationships with cisgender males. I've even been invited to threesomes by a couple of these women.

I think that there are as many or more trans-attracted women as men. And as hamstrung by transphobia and fear of being judged for dating an openly TG person as the rest of us.

If we get more trans-attracted people to be open about their attraction and date openly trans people then we'd have more transfolk no longer fearing being lonely if they came out as well as guving even more women the courage to be out as trans-attracted. We need pioneers to make it more socially acceptable to openly be attracted to gender diversity.

DanteCarrie (FTM) · Post by **DanteCarrie (FTM)** » Tue Dec 08, 2009 3:03 am

well i think alot of them` are open but you've got to remember there are more cis gendered people than crossdresser or genderqueer or tans so the likely hood is they will meet cis genered people first.

I would have happily dated a trans person. I mean I'm bisexual with a predominant attraction to females but ended up with a cis gendered straight man because there are so many of them you just meet more of them and its more likely you find one you click with first.

Its a timing thing. you want a hot trans/crossdress loving woman get to her before others do. but that advice goes for anyone really.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Tue Dec 08, 2009 7:32 pm

what is cis gendered?

Whe'd have to agree on what is androgynous. I think of long hair as very masculine, in a giving the boss the finger sort of way.

Zari

Bayne · Post by **Bayne** » Tue Dec 08, 2009 10:35 pm

Absaroka wrote:what is cis gendered?

Cis means the opposite of trans.

DanteCarrie (FTM) wrote:well i think alot of them` are open but you've got to remember there are more cis gendered people than crossdresser or genderqueer or tans so the likely hood is they will meet cis genered people first.

I would have happily dated a trans person. I mean I'm bisexual with a predominant attraction to females but ended up with a cis gendered straight man because there are so many of them you just meet more of them and its more likely you find one you click with first.

Its a timing thing. you want a hot trans/crossdress loving woman get to her before others do. but that advice goes for anyone really

This is a good point, that if we keep hiding our gender diversity we won't attract those attracted to it. Someone attracted to gender diversity will only have the occassional rock star to look at and not see the closeted people in their own community.

But it is true that a good number of the under 25yar old TG-attracted people I've met do struggle with the idea of being judged by peers and family and loved ones. Something it seems is dramatically changing.

That Kelly Osbournes boyfriend is a covergirl on a crossdressing magazine is a pretty positive sign. http://celebrities.ninemsn.com.au/blog. ... ue&rss=yes

DanteCarrie (FTM) · Post by **DanteCarrie (FTM)** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 3:52 am

yeah exactly if you are not out you can't expect to allure the ones attracted to it. even so you dont have to be out you could just try approaching a girl who you think is interesting. I know shyness isn't that attractive and doesn't get you anywhere.

I don't know about the being judged thing I would never have been worried about what people think if i was with a trans person but then again being androgynous myself and bi I kind am already one to be judged regardless and no longer care but I am very happy with my partner. I think if beauty and personality are there why not fall in love

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Androgyny Sexy to Women?

sorry

thanks!