Being in the presence of a man

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Being in the presence of a man

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Hi how do you girls feel when with a man.i must admit I love being a female . The thought of wearing the clothes and make up and being girly really makes me feel special.
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Of course I feel special when dressed whether out or in private. If I didn't why would I do it. As far as being "with a man," right now that would only entail passing one another in a store. Even as a woman I am attracted to women. I would not be comfortable having a long conversation with a man. Getting a nice look, a compliment, or just being treated like a lady would be fine.
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Hi ,

Being in the ...presence ...of a man , or with a man. sorry , im not sure how you mean this ,

if you mean in his presence then I,ll take that as being a friend ,Yes I have a good few as friends and I find them lovely , I cant talk with them about womens issues or things that are quite personal because I don't relate to or with men in that way , so friends im doing quite well concidering what I,v been through ,

Now this the tricky one ...with a man ...sorry no way ever , I don't trust a man to accept that I will not enter into a relastionship and what a man would expect of me yes im a female and yes I have feelings just would a man wont to be with me when theres no way of having a sexual relastionship ,

NO of cause not .,

I know theres more to this than what im saying and it concerns myself , I wont go into the details ,

I may not be well versed in understanding men , though I do know what they wont out of and in a relastionship .

I know you,s talk about being girly and special and the like , and no doubt many women = natal do feel the same , or getting ready for a special evening out with that someone special,

To be very frank and honist I struggle greatly with that , I know I go to some lovely places and meet with my lovely friends . females and yes I love that, when men are there unless I know them and their wifes -partners then I back track to my women friends at one of our every 2 weeks we as a group do go out and yes a few men come and two I know because their wifes are there or one I,v known for some 20 years and that's okay ,

You may be thinking im one strange female or weird what ever yeap youd be right , and I,ll accept that . maybe not what youd expect yet its just how it is with myself , PM some time if youd like to know more ,

...noeleena...
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Even as a lifelong crossdresser there was a time in my life I couldn't even imagine myself with a man. I was happily married to a wonderful woman for 36 years and although she had a DADT attitude towards my dressing we had a good marriage. I do admit that as I grew older I started to wonder what it would be like to be with a man but as long as I was married I stayed true to my vows. My wife passed away 6 years ago and after a bit I started going out more as Kim. I met a couple of girls and well we "got together". Fast forward about a year and I was at a local watering hole and had a guy hit on me. I do OK but anyone who gives me a second look knows I am not a GG and he did. At first it was just a friendship but it grew.

As I think about it now I see myself as bisexual or even more correct to use a trite term from the porn of old trisexual! I would definitely enjoy the company of a GG (been a while for that :( ), girls like myself, as well as gentlemen. I do admit that getting dolled up for a man who appreciates me is very satisfying. I know that is not for everyone but for me it is!
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I can only be "with" someone I am in love with, which would mean my wife.

But I have no problem in mixed company, as long as no one has a problem with me.
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I suppose the answer would be different for every person.

The only experience I have on this is one time there was a guy who I'm pretty sure was hitting on me. I was at some store like Home Depot or something, and he started talking to me, then told me I had really nice legs (who doesn't like to hear that??) and that I looked really good, etc. And I don't pass a close inspection so I know he knew. Anyway, I found it uncomfortable and a bit creepy.
Now I've been hit on by gay guys before and never found that uncomfortable, just politely informed them that I'm not interested in that. So I don't know why I was uncomfortable this time, whether I felt vulnerable and unsafe or whether that guy was just creepy.
Anyway, I'm not into guys and that doesn't change with what I'm wearing.
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Ralitsa wrote:
So I don't know why I was uncomfortable this time, whether I felt vulnerable and unsafe or whether that guy was just creepy.
Probably all of them Ralitsa. Now you understand how we women feel at times. It doesn't even have to be a someone talking or making a blatant pass t you, it can be that look he gives you, that silly smile. or that comment he makes under his breath to his buddy. Yes there is a vulnerability men don't understand and yes there are just guys that just give you the chills. Although it is creepy every girl should have the opportunity to see from our side, what women face everyday.
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I love being around men when I am dressed as a woman and I love that they take control of me. I know that females are not the weaker sex like they were so called in the early days but I enjoy being in that role and I want a man to take charge of me and tell me what to do. I dream of being a house wife and taking care of the house and cleaning and cooking dinner and being there for my man 24/7, that is my ideal life and then him having his way with me at night lol
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Hey, Pam T.
I think you can do that. Wouldn't you like being bottom?
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I am a bottom and I love being a bottom and being very submissive.
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And topping from the bottom? Oh, yes!

Oddly enough, only with a woman, my last wife, so far.

But I've been thinking, and I understand things may change with HRT, which I'm starting soon.
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I do think as some of us age we feel the urge to crossover. I would even try being a sissy boi. <>
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Wendae wrote:I do think as some of us age we feel the urge to crossover. I would even try being a sissy boi. <>
Yes.

I was searching for a shrink that accepted my insurance (Humana Gold Star, Affinity, Medicare) and found one immediately! The shrink herself answered the phone and after we got through the basics I said I'd be glad to talk a bit about why I wanted to work with a psychologist if she'd like - she was delighted.

So I told her my age, how long I'd been a cross dresser, and that now that I was a widower (again) I'd like to experience MTF HRT, but had no great interest in socially transitioning. She immediately remarked on how very many men in their 60s were now interested in transitioning.

Of course at that age we are much less tied to the gender requirements that work, children, family, etc. expect of us. And then there's Cait. Who knew that older trans women could turn out so well?

So yes, Wendae, but it's not just the age but the circumstances that age brings with it. (I'll have to check Gail Sheehy's "Passages" to see what she has to say. And since it's been many years, I'll have to take a look at her later books, too.)

So she's been in the business for 21 years and has worked with many MTF transitioners. I think this will work out.
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Hum...All I can say is I dream about a strong confident intelligent woman who loves me and in that dream she does not mind, perhaps is able to accept and enjoy taking the lead. I do dream of having a husband that being just a label for whoever fulfills that role...taking the lead wearing the pants...and of my being the wife. I have been on the bottom once and dream of one day having a woman who wants it that way at least half the time. I remember she was like a beautiful lioness with her beautiful mane of long light brown hair...wow that was something...it was before I started dating my wife. I think I could settle for yielding to a woman all the time. But realistically I do believe I am fluid and so a balance would be found. Hum...ying and yang... I am on the feminine side of my gender right now so I cannot really say because it effects my thinking. Once my gender flows in the other direction my thinking seems to be more objective and accurate for some reason. Interesting thread.
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