THE OFFICIAL: How did you choose you name?

[Shelby]

I am new to this and have yet to fully dress as a woman. Picking a name for my female side is difficult; I don't feel like a woman, and really don't want to be called girl. I am simply a man who fantasizes about being dressed as a sexy woman. I am not going outside as a woman (that would not work as I don't think I'd fool anyone) and this is really just for me and my wife.

Did it take seeing yourself in a full outfit before you could select a name for yourself or did you have a name in mind all along? My wife thinks I should have a name when dressed up; she has one in mind and I am okay with it, just wanted to hear how you all came up with your names.

[Davita]

Hi Keay,

Simply (or not so...) this is how I decided on my name, http://davita-farley.webs.com/how_to/howname.html. After all these years, I've only had my one name.

[Anthony Simon]

I resisted having a name for a long time. I felt it committed me too much to the female side. One day it just popped into my head - that that's what I looked like - a first name. And recently a last name appeared.

[Shelby]

I resisted having a name for a long time. I felt it committed me too much to the female side. One day it just popped into my head - that that's what I looked like - a first name. And recently a last name appeared.

I think that's where my head is at right now; if I take a name for myself it might make this too real. You know how some things are just thoughts until you say them out loud?

[Lacey Hadley]

Finding a femme name required a lot of thinking, looking at celebs and other VIP's especially those I have respect for. I also tried saying a lot of femme names to get a feel how they rolled off my tongue a made me feel. It was very important for me to do this while dressed en femme and for me with a wig and make up on. It took me a while as I tried out different names that I like.

'Lacey' just rolled off my tongue well and while looking dressed en femme in a mirror I felt like a 'Lacey'. It clicked for me. I've been using Lacey as my femme name since oh about 2001. Her name is now as normal to me en femme as my give male name is in drab.

Names are interesting, do they reflect the person or does the person reflect the name? Our given names are at birth and our parents have whatever reasoning for each, but I find that people often reflect their names. Again is it we grow into a name or did our parents just get it more right for each of us. I guess some of us grow feeling wrong about our given names, hence why some will use a middle names as a first or maybe us a nickname for day to day life.

My given name is a unisex one, I could have used it while en femme, but for me even though I am the same person be it in drab or en femme I felt that I had to have a separate name for my girly/femme side. I do act and think a bit differently en femme over in drab. Lacey is a softer more gentle side to me as a person, even though my male side is also a kind and warm hearted male.

[Anthony Simon]

...if I take a name for myself it might make this too real. You know how some things are just thoughts until you say them out loud?

Absolutely. The boundaries are really important. Things are out of your mouth, they take on a life of their own - so it is with a name. It's a kind of real person not just a collection of things you do.

[Ralitsa]

I'm sure this reason will sound weird, but nevertheless, here it is.
I picked a name for use here that can't possibly be digitally traced to me. At the time I signed up most of my experience with sites aimed at crossdressers seemed to be pornographic, malware ridden, unsecured, and basically really dangerous places to be leaving a trail. I'm very happy to say that this is not like that at all, and I've found this place to be very safe. But I was very distrustful at the time so I picked a very common name in some parts of the world and one that has no connection to me. I also made it a point to give an incorrect location in my profile, just to confuse any trolls. Now that I'm comfortable here, I'd rather use the feminine form of my own name, but I'm not going to change it at this point. It all seems amusing now, that I was so worried about that then.

[Noeleena]

Hi,

My names were given me from birth and later.... I added.... to them ...no.
I was given something from a Lovely RN from Thailand . Nurse,

1947 I was given , noel edward mannfried Von Reutchthos Loch-head.

So later when my details where changed to as should have been female at birth .

so noeleena edwina Loch-head to make it simple for others ,

What was quite funny was one of our Dr,s said to me when my info was being checked out what name are we going to use I said never thought about it noel or no-el I did not mind so really most of what has happened for this kid others helped and gave me what I needed so my names really have been given to me through out my life.

I could have stayed with noel or no-el as that's okay as its both male / female so Jos and I looked at noeleen till I was in Phuket and I was told from my RN no no no it has to be noeleena or in German noeleené as the 'e' or á is stressed as said .

...noeleena...

[Joan Grey]

While I had thought about being April (what my parents had planned on naming me as they had expected a girl), I simply decided on Joan, which only required changing one letter. As for the last name, that's been my predominant hair color for many moons!

[KimberlyS]

Along with Anthony resisted having a femme name for a long time. I was originally on a different forum site that was very pushy. One day I got tired of the pushy whiners and just threw out Kimberly as it sounded good at the time. There was little thought put into it.

I say go with what works for you and your wife.

[Emily]

Before I chose a name, I wanted to make sure that it didn't at all resemble my male name but that it was a true representation of my femme side.

With those criteria in mind, there were two things that directly influenced me in determining my femme name and a third that was purely coincidental but helped to confirm that I picked the right name.

Before I settled on "Lexi" I had tried other D&D fantasy-esque type of names while I was still deep into my goth phase. I found that as my sense of style and fashion evolved, that my name at the time really didn't work...

I truly fell in love with the name Lexi after seeing the adult actress Lexi Belle (ya gotta start somewhere, right? LOL). Hmmm.... Lexi? Sounds pretty. Sounds feminine. And it seemed to really suit my femme style and personality which I like to think of as fun, fresh and flirty! Around this same time, my friends would call me "Alexi" (after the Children Of Bodom guitarist/singer) due to my close resemblance to him - so in another way, Lexi is just a shortened form.

Fast forward to a few years later at work... We hired a temp worker to help with accounting duties - her name was Lexi and wow, she was a beauty! Nice, dark brown hair, perfect proportions, sweet and kind. A professional demeanour with the outfits to match - though some days were a bit more casual, but still just as well put together. She didn't realize what an influence she had on me as I would often try to emulate her style - and that we shared the same name - definitely made me realize that it was the right name for my femme self!

[Angie G]

The stone's song Angie.And the crush I had on Angie Dickinson a few years back. My name had to be Angie
Angie

[Ashleykal]

For me it was easy, ever since coming to the USA I have frequently been mistaken for a woman because of my name, Ashley. Does no one recall there was a characture in gone with the wind who was very much male? I have recieved numerous emails referring to me as "she". I was left looking for a driver to pick me up because he was looking for a woman. I was assigned a room in the female dorms for a meeting at a college. Little did any of them know how close to the truth they were!
Ashley

[Michelle Diane]

For me choosing my femme name was relatively easy. My father always said that if he had a daughter he would like to call her Michelle. Diane was the name of an old girlfriend who I confessed my desires to and she accepted me for who I am and helped me no end. When I came out to my wife and told her about my femme persona she said Michelle was a nice name and it suited me.

[Alisa]

I used one of those baby name sites to choose a name... according to the site I used the name Alisa \a-li-sa\ is pronounced ah-LEE-sah. It is of Hebrew origin, and its meaning is "great happiness. It also means noble, kind, honorable but joy is what won me over. I think it's kind of sweet!

This not the site I used but this one is similar.
http://www.babynamespedia.com/meaning/Alisa