We should defend the term Sissy
Posted: Thu May 23, 2019 9:53 am
I wish that the term sissy was not loaded with slurs and horrible connotations. Sissy after all is the correct term for a male who is like a tomboy is on the female side. Unfortunately the term sissy has been so badly corrupted by society...in the exact same way men who cross dress have been. It is so badly corrupted that even people in our community will argue that it is a bad term. Definitions even state as acceptable that the term Sissy is a derogatory name for someone, especially a man or boy, who seems weak or cowardly, or who acts in a stereotypically feminine way.
People who call others sissies aren't just insulting the so-called sissy. They're also implying that there is something weak and fearful about being a girl or a woman — it's the same as telling a boy, "You throw like a girl." It's unkind and also inaccurate. Sissy comes from sister, and its earliest use to mean "effeminate man" was in the late 1800s.
So! Sissy comes from sister and meant an effeminate man.... Even in this definition the sexist condemnation of women by men is why this term acquired it's bad connotations. It is made very clear that women are also slurred here as being weak and fearful and that being like a woman is a bad thing, something that is negative and awful, unacceptable, inferior and definitely that any man who is like a woman is to be condemned.
But being a woman is a very positive thing! They are strong and brave they would defend those they love to the death! They are kind, loving and caring... They are brilliant. So...Why is being like one of your sisters a bad thing!? It isn't!!! I think we should defend the term because it is the correct term that is the opposite of a tomboy...women who exhibit qualities that are considered to be like men are tomboys and men who exhibit qualities that are considered to be like women are sissy's. There is absolutely nothing wrong with using these terms and I think we should defend the term sissy from condemnation by correcting people and defending women and that being a woman is a very positive thing that it is quite positive for a man to be like a woman if they are!
I am not overtly effeminate...in mannerisms or in speech...but I am in more subtle ways mentally and in my manner of dress in the clothing I like to wear, and in how I like to groom myself, and in how I feel internally much of the time in some of my interests, preferences, and emotions. I may not "swish" or lisp...but I do share some of the same mental qualities that would be assessed to be more feminine than masculine. I do not share all of the qualities because I am still a man but I am not like other men...there is a difference inside of me.
People who call others sissies aren't just insulting the so-called sissy. They're also implying that there is something weak and fearful about being a girl or a woman — it's the same as telling a boy, "You throw like a girl." It's unkind and also inaccurate. Sissy comes from sister, and its earliest use to mean "effeminate man" was in the late 1800s.
So! Sissy comes from sister and meant an effeminate man.... Even in this definition the sexist condemnation of women by men is why this term acquired it's bad connotations. It is made very clear that women are also slurred here as being weak and fearful and that being like a woman is a bad thing, something that is negative and awful, unacceptable, inferior and definitely that any man who is like a woman is to be condemned.
But being a woman is a very positive thing! They are strong and brave they would defend those they love to the death! They are kind, loving and caring... They are brilliant. So...Why is being like one of your sisters a bad thing!? It isn't!!! I think we should defend the term because it is the correct term that is the opposite of a tomboy...women who exhibit qualities that are considered to be like men are tomboys and men who exhibit qualities that are considered to be like women are sissy's. There is absolutely nothing wrong with using these terms and I think we should defend the term sissy from condemnation by correcting people and defending women and that being a woman is a very positive thing that it is quite positive for a man to be like a woman if they are!
I am not overtly effeminate...in mannerisms or in speech...but I am in more subtle ways mentally and in my manner of dress in the clothing I like to wear, and in how I like to groom myself, and in how I feel internally much of the time in some of my interests, preferences, and emotions. I may not "swish" or lisp...but I do share some of the same mental qualities that would be assessed to be more feminine than masculine. I do not share all of the qualities because I am still a man but I am not like other men...there is a difference inside of me.