My son's story

JuliaG(SO) · Post by **JuliaG(SO)** » Fri Mar 06, 2009 11:28 pm

Hello I am Julia and I am a mother of a crossdresser,my 10 year old son Tyler whom goes by Kayla.I noticed something was not right,a pair of my heels out of place and this started when he was 5 years old.Finally I did catch him doing this.I did not get mad and I knew something was on his mind.He admited to liking anything feminine and I did seek help for him.He was diagnosed with being a crossdresser by a gender specialist.I knew after that I loved him still and I do to this day.I just want to see him happy and I know he is.

EmilyN · Post by **EmilyN** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 3:04 am

lovely to read!! as one who started at age 7 i can appreciate the impact your support and non-judgemental approach can provide. please do continue to let him find his own way, i know he'll be happier for it. god bless you!

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 4:05 am

Julia,

You just don't know the difference you can make. It is so wonderful to see a mother do the right thing. I can not even imagine having an understanding parent. Make sure he knows he is not abnormal, he is not a freak and he is not alone. There are millions of us.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 8:20 am

Welcome Julia,

What a great Mom you must be!!!! Congratulations and I should not beg you, but PLEASE find the time to stay with us and share what is going on with you and your son. You can really make a difference in other people's lives. You may not even realize the positive input that you could have helping others deal with, what I am fond of calling, "our gift." As you will find, a lot of us do not, did not have understanding parents or family and seeing a positive response can make it a lot nicer for all of us.

Thanks again, Julia and we do look forward to your continuing to share with us.

Virginia

Leeza · Post by **Leeza** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 11:10 am

Julia, it is so great to hear about a supporting parent especialy of a young child. I have often wondered how my life would of been different if my family had been accepting.

I am not complaining though as in my younger years it was thought we crossdressed by choice rather than being wired this way. Also I wasn't disowned by my family as some who post on here were.

Leeza

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 11:26 am

Hi Julia,

I am so happy for your son and very proud of you as his mom. I can relate very much as my mother caught me at 14 dressing in her cloths and after the shock and my why,s she supported me all the way but in our case it was a huge secret as that was back in 1956

and it was a NoNo.

My wife of 45 years has stood behind me all these years.

Diannna · Post by **Diannna** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 12:01 pm

Hi Julia,
What a lovely read. I believe you are doing the right thing. Your son may be able to better understand himself. Unlike many of us growing up, we had a hard time trying to figure out who and what we were. Not untill the internet was I content to accept who and what I was. Please stay in touch and let us know if we can voice our opinions for possible help.

JuliaG(SO) · Post by **JuliaG(SO)** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 8:23 pm

Thanks and I wil be.My mom told me to love and accept him knowing this is him.My son is getting better to understand himself.He has been teased and picked on a few times.

April Rose · Post by **April Rose** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 8:31 pm

Julia, your son is lucky to have such an open minded and loving mother. I'm curious about what course of action the gender specialist suggested in dealing with your son's cross dressing? Was the person a Doctor, a psychologist or a social worker?

JuliaG(SO) · Post by **JuliaG(SO)** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 8:41 pm

It was a psychologist that suggested to see a gender specialist.He still sees the Gender specialist,twice a month and I do go to a support group for parents of crossdressers

Azurielle · Post by **Azurielle** » Sat Mar 07, 2009 11:28 pm

I didn't know you could be ''diagnosed'' as a crossdresser, but anyhow. Like anything, it's good that you took it on with open mind

Erin L · Post by **Erin L** » Mon Mar 09, 2009 11:04 am

Julia, thank you for that heartwaming post. Your son is so lucky. Most of us here grew up really struggling with this. Acceptance is just so wonderful.

How old is he, now and how is he doing?

Nanci · Post by **Nanci** » Mon Mar 09, 2009 11:24 am

Dear Julia,

Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful story about how Kayla started dressing as a girl, and your support for her wishes.

In reading your posts, i wondered whether you think that Kayla might, indeed, be a ts rather than a crossdresser? I hope your gender specialist is well versed in the area of transsexuality in children, as well as crossdressing in children.

You are to be commended for being such a loving and understanding mother.

Nancy

Patti D · Post by **Patti D** » Mon Mar 09, 2009 8:54 pm

Please keep us updated, Your story was wonderful

JuliaG(SO) · Post by **JuliaG(SO)** » Tue Mar 10, 2009 7:10 am

Thanks and I will come up with updates.My finacee and fellow member hayleyf as been a positive influence on my son.

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