members advice

[Mary Margaret]

hello all.
Just looking for some advice and your thoughts on the following.I have dressed for the last 60 odd years and my fetish always has been for wearing slips nightgowns and foundatioin wear most of which i have now is vintage and generally the clothes that mature ladies of the 1950/1970s would wear.Sexual release has always being part of my dressing and as i get older i am now69 years i find that when i do dress the sexual side seems to have diminished even thought i still enjoy the pleasure being wrapped in these beautiful garments.Is this part of growing older ? i would to ask particularly the older members of the forum how to bring back the sexual magic and enjoy the thrill that i have enjoyed for all these years since i first encountered that nylon full slip under the pillow
many thanks.
MM Dublin.

[KimberlyS]

I love the vintage foundations. They are wonderful. I have my share of them also but many i have out grown.

[Rikki]

The "sexual magic" has dwindled for me, also. But what remains is even better to me. A feeling of contentment, peace and relaxation when I am wrapped up in my favorite fashions of the fifties. It's more like a time machine, back to a more care-free era (even though for many people it wasn't).

Maybe some here would argue that we have (at one time or another) dressed for sexual pleasure that we are more "fetishists" than transgendered, and I would perhaps agree. Which puts me more in the "Q" of sexual orientation alphabet soup I guess.

Getting older ain't for wimps!

Rikki

[DonnaT]

You may have to mentally role play with another fetish while dressed!?

Domination, submission, forced whatever, ....

[Noeleena]

Hi,

I think you need a good woman who can get you aroused. or sexually turned on. that's blunt as I can say it,

Im coming up to 70 and I have come on heat. or sexualy 100% overdrive. so I need a guy , as a sexual friend who would be willing to be with me ,oh am I for real .....

Very much so and a female born one at that my issues are i,m one out of every 7000 females who are ether born with out our wombs or cant have our own child, because of abnormalitys our hormones are real and no added synthic add ins, my hormones have been changing for years and my body is run completely as any normal female does except mine are not completely slowing down as most or many women in my age group they have incressed. not like many women do around menopause.

Im really looking for a long term relasionship and marrage. so maybe a little different as i am, nothing new in my case,

for men yes there is a down turn in sexual desire as that's normal at the older ages of many men not all of cause, your about same age as i am, though your a guy and your hormones are not the same level as mine are , female level of T, nmol ;9 to1; 25, what i would do is have a blood count done and check up to see where your levels are and maybe able to have some testostrone shots and up your levels, nmol levels for younger men is around nmol 34 to 36 , yours could be down to say nmol 25 , or even lower, the tests will show you what they are and then youll see what your GP can do,

...noeleena...

[Eileen (SO)]

Dear Mary,

You are getting older. Keep in mind that I'm merely the wife of a CD for this reply. Hubby said that in the early days, sexual release was a big part of his dressing. As an adolescent, most everything is anyway. After then, sexual pleasure was with a female partner. Enjoy dressing the way you like to and check your Testosterone levels. If this is your only opportunity for sexual pleasure, keep a clean nightie under the pillow.

Eileen

[Amanda R]

The sexual release side of crossdressing is quite common particularly in younger CD's. As time goes on the desire to dress as a form of sexual satisfaction wanes generally. These are general statements but are by far the vast majority of even true TG's in their early ages. One of the things that differentiates the CD form the TG is the sexual side of dressing diminishes very early on, where it generally declines on the CD as age progresses into middle age or beyond and testosterone levels decline.

The fact you continue to enjoy the clothes without the sexual side is quite normal Mary Margaret. IMO as long as you enjoy and it is not harming anyone I would say do as you please.

[April Rose]

Viagara, Cialis.

[Requal Jo]

I too am passed the 60 mark and yes in my younger years there was a sexual desire with my dressing. Like yourself Mary, my sexual desires have diminished with age. Now I just enjoy the relaxation, stress free and pleasurable time when Requal appears.

[Diana Michelle]

Perhaps rather than seeking advice here on how to "bring the thrill back" you should be consulting your physician. As we age our hormone levels change in both genders. the exceptions are those of who are post op and continue HRT or in the now are case where a woman's gynecologist will prescribe HRT to combat some of the side effects of menopause. There are many safer options for the genetic woman today however I am sure there are still a few on it.

I realize this may be a sensitive subject but if you are comfortable talking here about it certainly you can talk to your doctor about it. Whether you raise the crossdressing aspect of this during that conversation is entirely up to you. I am sure you are not the only maturing male your doctor has heard issues of intimacy from.

[Mary Margaret]

Hello All.
many thanks to all who replied to my mail.I guess i will have to put it down to getting older and except it as it is.My desire to dress thru the years was always to over dress for example nightwear i would wear perhaps up to 3 slips or long petticoats then a long night gown and then a negligee or robe.Or another example would be my one and only wedding dress and to fill out the underskirts again with long petticoats to gain maximum fullness with the material and to have the fabric swish against me and usually this results in sexual release.Perhaps as Rikki says maybe this puts me in the fetish box and not TG.?Any way i hope i can experience the pleasure and contentment that wearin these beautiful cloths for a long time to come.Finally a big thanks to Eileen SO this is a name dear to me as it was my late auntie eileens underwear that lit the spark in me so many years ago. And yes i have taken your advice on board and keep a clean soft nightgown at hand just in case.!