My life has never been better. I’ve seen Charlie dressed, he is a most beautiful sight. Not only are his legs drop dead gorgeous in stockings & heels, it’s more, much more. It’s how happy, and comfortable he feels. It’s how open he’s become. CDing is the best thing that has ever happened to our marriage. I can only image how difficult it has been for my very intelligent, thinking, caring husband to live with the negative thinking of so many toward CDing, and fearing the unknown in our relationship.
I once thought & wrote about Charlie’s apparent lack of ambition. I now have a glimpse of what Charlie went through to not have any light shine on him, of being the background at all cost. I have the amazing good fortune to be living with a moth who is transforming into the most beautiful butterfly, finally not placing fear of exposure first. I’m certain Charlie would not want his mother, sister or brother to know he likes to wear women’s things, it just seems as if us sharing Charlie’s CDing has put life in perspective. After all, the sky didn’t fall when I found out – okay, maybe just for a little while.
I guess what I’d like to say to the SOs is there is life with CDing. I don’t believe CDing changes the wonderful man you love, it is who he is and has always been. He is the same, and so are you. It may be a surprise, but if you’re able to work through your feelings you’ll find something even better than you had before.
To those men who enjoy wearing women’s clothes, let your guard down as much as is practical and possible. If you don’t let us in, don’t talk to us, we remain ignorant and frightened. Ignorant, frightened people do not make good partners.
There are many people I’d like to thank but I’ll name just two: CJ & Kay. CJ, you lighted my voyage of discovery more often than you know. When you wrote “About Charlie, my suggestion is this, Mimi (and it always will be): don't give up on trying to get him to open up. Somewhere in there, there's a person dying to be known--to be known in his true self.” I really did not believe you knew what you were talking about. (Sorry) But I heard you & hoped - You were absolutely correct. Kay you once said “Charlie sound like your everyday Cross Dresser to me.” Yep, I thought you were all wrong too, but I heard you. You so kindly offered to answer my questions. You two & so many others made me think, helped my tiny weenie brain engage.
Here’s to You, Here’s to Life, Here’s to Androgyny!…MiMi
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