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Jessie
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Post by Jessie »

Well it happended my father found that I am now and have been a crossdresser. It was kind of how it happened. I was showing how I can donwload e-mail on my new PDA and he happened to see a messag I left there with the words crossdresser in the title message. Well the broke the ice. We talked a little about it I told him I have been a CD a long long time. He seamed happy for me but also scared for me do to where we live. I think he might be overly scared about it but I will hope to break down some of those barriers as time goes on. He was not as angry or upset (other than finding out that he was the last to know) I just do not know where it will go from here.

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DonnaT
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Post by DonnaT »

He sounds pretty cool, then. So just let him have time to adjust, if he needs it.
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Post by KimberlyS »

Hi Jessie, sounds like your Dad took it fairly well. I will never tell my Dad. He would not say much, but i would hear it through my Mom. My Dad has never really said anything to me of a personal nature. Even getting my ears pierced he said nothing. But he read my Mom the riot act about them. Now my brother is a different story. He point blank to my face said, "Why the $&^%$ *&^$# *&^%$# &^%$#* did you get that done for".

Good luck with your father.

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Virginia
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Post by Virginia »

Jessie,
Seems that your father is somewhat open minded. At least he did not come totally "unglued!" and that is a start!
Not knowing your relationship with him or your family I really can't comment other than our motto: "Small steps, honey, just small steps!" If it were me I would let it drop and not bring it up again unless someone else does. We can easily support who we are. But to the "great unwashed" it seems to serve little if any purpose to "throw it in someone's face."
We need to know how you handle this as it will be of benefit to some of your sisters here as some of them may or are now facing the same situation and having options and alternatives is most helpful!
Keep the faith, dear,
Love ya,
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Post by Gardenia_SO »

Hi Jessie:

I think that was actually a positive reaction from your father--in time, he will most likely accept your dressing. He needs to know that you're the same son you've always been, and it sounds like he will be supportive.

He's probably afraid that something will happen to you because of the dressing. There are a lot of scumbags out there, and I can understand his concern. Assure him that you'll use some common sense and not do things that would put you in an awkward position, like walking down a dark alley alone at night in femme mode.

My fiance is scared to death about telling his parents or my parents--kudos to you for coming clean! Good luck!

-Gardenia
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