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Building on Chantelle's SO question: would you be 100% accepting if your wife dressed as a man, had hair like a man, wore a strap-on all the time (even to bed) because she liked it and it made her happy?

And you have no bisexual or gay tendencies!

Howdy Donna T

Intersesting question. I would make one change though. How about using the phrase "work out a compromise" instead of setting limitations. If one tries to impose a limitation on an aspect of anothers core nature; one cannot be said to be very respectful towards that person. On the other hand if the people can discuss their feelings openly and honestly to reach a compromise, that shows respect for both parties from both parties

*Hugs & Love*

As much as I would like to think that I could be that kind of a person I have answer no I could not accept that.

I probably could without the strap on requirements.

Hi all,

I voted for having limitations.

My wife and I have agreed limits on my CDing and if for some reason she wanted to wear boy clothes, etc. I think we would agree on limits. I seriously doubt she would cut her long hair that she puts in a bun or ponytail. She would be welcome to borrow my clothes, but my pants legs would be too long for her and my shoes would be too large.

I don't wear my fake boobs to bed, so I would ask her to remove any artificial enhancements.

I know she HATES pajamas and loves nightgowns. We have a few pairs of matching style nightgowns in different colors (we wear the same size), and I wear pajamas only when we have company or we are visiting.

When it's lovemaking time, it's time for me to remove all femme things, so I would expect her to remove all things masuline.

I'm pretty sure that this won't happen with us, but if it does, we would discuss the situation and work it out.

Jadeanne

I think this question would be answered differently according to the respondee's situation. For example, if my wife was accepting of my crossdressing (which she ISN'T), I would have to say that she could wear whatever she wanted to if it made her feel happy and complete. On the other hand, if I wasn't accepted, then I would feel that I have no obligation to accept HER crossdressing either. Maybe that's being childish, but what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Now, as far as wearing "attachments" to bed, I've never even considered doing so, but if I was at liberty to wear anything that I wanted to bed, I would feel that she should also have the same libery. However, if we had intentions of being romantic in bed, I don't think either of us would want to be wearing anything that wasn't natural.

This question also assumes a connection between sexual activities and crossdressing. And although there's nothing wrong with such a connection and it CAN be an enhancement, it shouldn't be something that becomes a requirement in the intimate relations between a man and his wife.

Dixie - http://www.geocities.co/senorita_cd

Hi girls,

I still beleive that the person I fell in love with was a human being. Whether or not it's a strapon or burn victim does not change who she is to me. And that is all that concerns me. What others may think or percieve is of little relevance to me. I would have no problem accepting her.

Love always,
Elizabeth

I agree with Elizabeth, live and let live.

I voted yes because of who I am. Being a confirmed cross dresser, how could I not be accepting of someone else who had the same needs. Being who we are, we are in a uniquely qualified position to be the accepting one because we would understand how she felt.

Love to all,
Patty

I feel that since my wife is accepting of me and my CD'ing. I agree that we are in a unique position to understand how they may be feeling and be able to accept them for their inner self.

I probably would not mind in my own situation since my wife has always been sort of tom boyish ever since I've known her. That is who I fell in love with, married, and is the mother to my boys. She actually prefers to dress down most of the time (much easier to deal with the infant). Although since we have begun to talk more and I've been more open about myself she has actually started to dress up a bit more at times. I feel it's wonderful that we are able to chat about waxing and other things. She jokingly told me the other night while watching Extreme Makeover Home Edition that I wasn't girly enough since I didn't cry during the reveal like she had .

I accept her any way she is and love her just the same.

She jokingly told me the other night while watching Extreme Makeover Home Edition that I wasn't girly enough since I didn't cry during the reveal like she had

with your wife, cause I cried.

Thanks to all that have responded so far. Does the lack of votes compared to the number of reads tell us anything?

I voted "Really don't know". I could not say because I love my wife very much and have been through changes that she has made and have stayed by her. I guess it would be a matter of why she was doing it. Is it for the same reasons I have, in that it makes me feel complete/happy? Then yes. Is it to "make me see how she feels"? I really cannot answer that. I love her for who she is and in that I really don't know who I would react if she decieded to do it in spite. but ahh... who know what "fun" we could have if she did

DonnaT wrote:
"Does the lack of votes compared to the number of reads tell us anything?"

No, probably not. I have been checking in and watching this one alot. So there may be many GGs doing the same thing.
I do wish there were more responses though. I'm pretty sure Maria would not be tolerant of me insisting on wearing a strap on. I offered once but was not taken up on the offer

This is a weird, and for me at least, "Totally Hypothetical Question" ... However, No question here ... I'd throw the bum out on "his" behind (with "his" strapon) ...

20 years ago, I may have been inclined to "compromise", but then 20 years ago I was also naive enough to almost fall into a "marriage from hell" ...
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To my thinking and understanding, a lot of which now has to do with information and lessons about my life and my CDing, gathered here and elsewhere, I'm becoming firmer in my belief that Androgyny is legitimately the Third & Missing Gender in our world ...

I'm not a guy who wears a bra ... I'm an androgynous person, born with small boobs and a "plug" between my legs ... I would have no interest in a "girl" who wears a strapon, but I could be understanding of an androgynous person, born with (probably, but not necessarily, larger boobs, and ...) a "socket" between "hers" ...

The whole point of "Thinking In Colour", Omnidimensionally (er, excuse me) is to allow Androgyny to be understood in it's own natural context: *Not* as a "deviation" or "variation" of the conventional, and obviously, fatally limited, bidimensional world of Black / White - Male / Female ...
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As for anyone who wants, or thinks they want to be known in the bi-dimensional framework; "fine" - just don't ask me to buy into that deadairspace - understand that I will fight to the bitter end to defend true openmindedness on this issue in the Universal sense ...

And as for anyone in the CD / SO situation, as a fellow human being, my heart goes out to you in your struggles ... I don't pity or envy you ... I just feel for you as human beings in an evolving world primarily ruled by darkness and ignorance - enslaved by fear and greed

/Marda

I say yes, because My wife, (Lil One) Sue, is basically a F to M cd anyway. She is much more comfortable in pants and tshirts than I am.

She has said that soem times she would rather BE a male than female.
And I am the oppisite a lot of the time, so I reckon, we's just trade roles.

Connie

Did not vote, Having gay tendencies, I was excluded.
Love Amelie