Date a girl or be a girl?

Beautiful_Gal · Post by **Beautiful_Gal** » Sun Jan 25, 2004 10:50 pm

Okay, for years all the girls I liked I just wanted to switch bodies with them. So, I never really wanted to date them. Until, the past girl I liked I REALLY liked her and wanted to date her. I fantasized every minute of being with her. Dancing with her. I almost asked her to dance, but I didn't. What I am saying is this is a girl I REALLY liked, and I saw her in school, I wanted to be a guy and go out with her. When I didn't see her, like on vacations, I wanted to be a girl. Well, I no longer like her (I overheard her say she drank so much on New Years Eve she couldn't walk which turned me off immediately) but I know another girl will come I will like as much. But, I don't know if I want to be a guy and date girls, or be a girl. I've always wanted to be a girl, ever since I was little. I wanted to be a popular beautiful girl, and be a cheerleader, and have parties where we fix eachother's hair, and just be like all the other girls. I don't know what I want anymore. Anyone else feel this way?

Alexandra · Post by **Alexandra** » Mon Jan 26, 2004 2:17 am

Its OKAY to want to be a girl and also to want to date girls. There is no reason why you can't do both.

(Just be kind and not mislead any GG you're dating.)

CJ · Post by CJ » Mon Jan 26, 2004 8:48 am

Hi BG,

As Alexandra says, those feelings, although they may seem conflicting, aren't necessarily mutually exclusive. There are many people who identify themselves as TG, from the occasional crossdresser to the transsexual, who are in relationships or, at the very least, into dating.

Although rejection is always a possibility, just remain who you are and you'll eventually find your match.

Love,
CJ

Laura · Post by **Laura** » Wed Jan 28, 2004 11:09 pm

Hi Beautiful Gal,

Have you taken the COGIATI test? That might clarify things a bit for you. It did for me.

Here's the link:

http://transsexual.org/Ttestpages1.html

Hugs,

Laura

LeftyRainbow(SO) · Post by **LeftyRainbow(SO)** » Fri Jan 30, 2004 8:32 pm

Hi Beautiful Gal,

It sounds familiar (your story).

My SO had ceased dating voluntarily until we met.

Just go with your feelings and you'll do fine.

Be yourself in whatever mode feels right to you.

Good Luck

Lefty