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Hello girls, I just like to introduce myself, I am new here and I am looking for a little support.
I am a Crossdresser not out in the open except here that is. my wife knows about it but is not
supportive so I tried to hide it from her. I know some of you might say "let see how long that last!"
so far is being okay. maybe because I never crossdress at home, even when she is away. any ways
I don't want to bore you with this story but I will like to meet some of you who have to go through the
same thing and see how you coupe with it.
Thank you
Carmen

Hi Carmen , to the forum.

Where do you dress, if not at home?

Welcome, Carmen. You sound a bit sad.

Hi, Carmen, and welcome to the Forum!


- SL

Thank you every one, I dress at work, which is nerve breaking and exiting I get to stay late some times
when nobody is around, however there are security cameras so I don't know if my boss has ever seem me and has chosen not to say anything to me. I have access to a small office and I keep my stash
hidden in there I also have my own laptop which my wife does not know about it. I also go out usually just to take pictures of myself. my worse nightmare is to run into somebody who will recognize me but
the feeling of being out is too strong to resist.

Welcome,
Sound like you are on a very dangerous road. I know it is hard but you must consider the consequences of getting caught and decide if it is worth it. Given enough chances something will go wrong.

The one thing I couldn't work out from your earlier post was why, if your wife is away sometimes, you don't take the opportunity of CDing at home. As long as you clear up afterwards (which presumably you do in your office) that would appear to present a relatively safe opportunity which, at the moment, you're not taking.

You had an anxious face at the end of your first message - and like Carly suggests - that fits absolutely with the way you're going about things.

It may be that you need to go and talk to someone professional (i.e. a therapist) to see if he can help you get off what looks like a self-destructive path. I kind of have a feeling of all sorts of buried emotions that need space.

I don't see it as a self destructive path, but do agree that the chances of getting caught are present.

I know, because I was caught by one of the secretaries. She, nor anyone else, was supposed to be in that early. Luckily she was ok with it.

Welcome, I'm new here also.
I would agree, especially if you don't want to get caught at work, dress more at home, while your wife is away.
Good luck, Enjoy! Jamie

Hi, Carmen, and to our home on the internet.

I agree with my sisters that you are taking a huge chance by doing it at work. If you have to be in the closet, you are better off doing it while the wife is away. Just be sure to remove everything so it won't be found.

Although I am out now that I am retired, I didn't want to take the chance on being fired because of CDing so any dressing I did while working was either not in the area where I worked or only underdress.

I can't say my wife is supportive, but she is tolerant. She knew about me being a CD before we started dating. For many years I didn't let her see me though for a lot of years.

Be careful.

Leeza

Thank you all, I know is a tough position the one I am in. I have crossdress at home but the last time
my wife happen to come home earlier than expected and needless to say the huge argument that we end up having over it. in my defense I had already toll her about me and she seemed sympathetic, boy was I wrong. ever since I've decided that it was best not to do it any more but I just can't.
I have been this way since I was a child of five as far as I can remember so I always start doing it all over again no matter how many times I try to quit so I just don't do it at home.

Carmen, I have a lot of sympathy for your situation. Like you my wife knows about my cross dressing but will not continence it. I am restricted to occasions when I am at home and she isn't (rare) or otherwise outside the home. This has forced me to be more out than I might have been comfortable with, I keep my "things" in the garage or the van and make surreptitious changes where and when I can, but I am finding that I am accepted more or less wherever I go, and that I am more fulfilled now that I a less furtive.

I have convinced myself that what I do is not shameful therefore I do not need to be ashamed and I will go out!

Thank you once again for your kind words,
I have been giving it a hard look at my situation. I will definite be more careful here at work.
since is not everyday that I dress, finding other place to do it should be less difficult. like in the car for example. anyways I just want to thank your girls

Carmen

hi Carmen and welcome to the site i am a newbie here too so lets blastoff together

Hi Carmen and to the forum, enjoy your stay.

Lovely name by the way.