Crossdressers-Haven.com

Hello, Ladies!

I am a genetic female who found your site while seeking answers. I have just started dating a man who, as our relationships has grown, shared with me that he enjoys dressing as a female. Folks, I am total rookie when it comes to anything beyond just plain ole white bread sex and relationships. Heck, I've been married most of my adult life and this is my first relationship after a divorce. Confession: I found this information to be stimulating and exciting and I can't wait to take him/her out! I have so many questions and I want to understand. I do not want to hurt any feelings with my ignorance. Most of all, I want he and I to explore this together.... to grow together and to have a great time! I could blather on and on (I'm pretty good at that) lol but will stop with the statement that your site seems to be full of caring, generous people and I am looking forward to making some new friends here.

Mariko

Welcome Mariko,
He was lucky to find you. My suggestion is you go slow. You may feel ok but it can be easy for us to go overboard. Talk about what you are both comfortable with and don't hold back any limitations you may have. We all have different levels of comfort and you may need to find her level. Could be just dressing could be more. Reading some of the posts will give you some idea of the spectrum of our interests.

Hi Mariko and a big big ,

Well you have come to the right place to figure it out before you get to involved and all of a sudden get hit in the face with it. First of all he is still the same man you know other then at times me wears diffrent cloths.

More women have been hurt deeply as the husband never told the wife until she found out. Me my loving mother told my now wife when we started getting involved and showed her pictures of her daughter (me) and the wife never batted an eyelash as she was turned on by it all .

I have been happy married for 49 years and she still gets a kick out of seeing me dressed up.
So ask all the question you want and go to the section for GG only as us guys can not go there, you might have to send SL (SilverLady) a pm and she will unlock the door for you so you can chat with other women who have a CD'er in thier life.

Welcome to the forum.

Mariko, Welcome to the forum, and thank you for at least wanting to learn and understand.

Ronnie

Hi, Mariko, and to our home on the internet.

We do have a lot of caring people here who are more than willing to attempt to answer questions and give of their experience.

As was said earlier, he is lucky to have you.

Hi, and

Welcome, Mariko. Sounds like this should go fine, but I agree with what Carly said about taking it slow.

Welcome to the site Mariko. Look around and ask some question. Every CDer is different so everything here will not apply to your man. Is your CDer a member here also?

kimberlys - cd
joe in a skirt

Hi Mariko. Great to have you with us. Any questions, just ask! We'll help if we can!

Mariko, welcome to the forum, I hope you find what you need here

Hi, Mariko, and welcome to the Forum!


- SL

To all of you who have so graciously welcomed me into your home: Thank you. I will do my very best to be a good guest if you guys will please pardon my ignorance and gaff's, should I commit any.

Kimberly: no, he is not a member here. My impression is that while he has accepted and embraced this aspect of himself he is still being protective of it. Which I completely understand. We are new in our relationship and this is something private about him that he is being cautious with. And I completely understand. It's one thing I am concerned about.. that I will, in my enthusiasm, trample upon or be too over eager. I totally get that what he shared with me took not only courage but but demonstrates a goodly amount of trust in me.

"Take things slow" GREAT advice. I think I will back off and let him introduce it into conversation. Let him broach the topic.

As for myself, I will do much perusing of all the other topics and anticipate learning much there.

It is wonderful to know that you are here and willing to talk and listen and guide.

Thanks again!

Welcome Mariko and Thanks for being supportive to a person who will need it. I got a chuckle out of "please pardon my ignorance and gaff's"
Look up the word (gaff) and you will see another meaning that made me chuckle. hehehe

The thing is, Mariko, the CDing drive is very powerful. It can be sexual and it can be not. If you've got quite a strong sexual response to your partner CDing, you're going to want to negotiate these two forces. So that's part of the reason for going slow.