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Hey to all. My dressed name is Andria, but I go by Clover, ('tis the Irish). I am very glad to be here and look forward to..well..looking forward.

I am married to a wonderful girl that knew all about me even before we officially met. I was working towards the possibilities of HRT at the time, but I put my feminine self aside because I knew I had found the one for me. And I know she is because she is willing to accept me for who I am. Though, she is wary sometimes due to previous relationships of hers and is afraid that I will take off to become a woman. It's tough to try to reassure her that it's not a possibility, but it keeps me from discussing it much.

But, I'm so happy to be here. It's taken a lot for me to finally reach out. Both time and courage.

Thank you all!
Clover

Welcome Clover,

Looking forward to talking with you. You should have your SO join us as well.

Welcome, Clover.

Hi, Clover, and welcome to the Forum!


- SL

Hi there Clover, or should I call you Andria?.

Hi Clover, to the forum.

I am sure that your courage will be repaid.

Hiya Clover,
to the forum, it's lovely to meet you!

Hiya Clover. Welcome to the club.

Welcome Clover

Hi Clover

Hello Clover:
Welcome to the group.

Thanks to all. It's been hard to feel this from anyone. I know I am in the right place.

Clover, I am married, 33 years, to a woman who is accepting, but anxious. I love her dearly, and would give up cross dressing for her if I had to, but what I have finally come to learn , is that it's more about what she is feeling than it is about the dressing. When she runs hot and cold on my behavior, I know that it is up to me to figure out what she is feeling, and to adjust my behavior accordingly. This is what defines me as a man , regardless of whether I am in a dress or not.

My wife is always afraid I want to be a woman. I can reassure her, and I often do, but she is a woman, and feelings are the ultimate authority. I'm not saying women can't think logically: my wife has done a far better job of managing our finances than I did when it was my responsibility. But with a woman, a truly feminine personality, feelings are the authority. If you can't bring yourself to talk to her about how you feel, you are probably an obsessive cross dresser. If you can't contain yourself from telling her how you feel, well, then you have decisions to make.