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Hi everyone, i am eva GG and SO.

I am nurse in one of the biggest hospitals in BC. I am also from a big extended family. CD, TG, gender identity, and difference in sexual preference is not new to me. It has been something i have been privileged to grow up with and continue to have it in my life. I asked to join here because though i have family and friends who fall under one or more of these, i am currently experiencing this for the first time with a sexual partner and possible spouse. My BF (DH).
I would like to be as supportive as i can be and would like help doing so. I am the only person he has shared this secret that he has kept to himself for 20+ years. I am also looking for support myself because i am having unexpected feelings. I have always thought myself to have a very accepting nature. The feelings i get make me question myself in general.
This is the first site i've joined though i have read many stories and done a lot of research. This is also the first time i have said anything about it.

Welcome, Eva.

A lot of us on the other side of the equation have difficulty in coming to terms with ourselves - of being accepting in that way. It's a process - and talking helps (IMO).

Hi, Eva, and welcome to the Haven!


- SL

Hi Eva, welcome!

I hope you find the support you are looking for here. I myself am new to this board too, and I can say that the ladies here have been nothing but friendly and so very, very helpful!

I also just wanted to say that reading your post was almost like seeing things from my own SO's perspective. She can fully accept CDer's, and at one time was fully active in the LGBT scene - but she has never fully accepted my CDing. She is the only one I ever told. It's been a long road with some ups, but a lot of downs ever since...

However, I'm sure that this forum will be a good place for you to start sharing your feelings and a place where we can all learn from each other!

Bless you for taking this seriously. May you find what you want and need here.

Welcome Eva,

I am always encouraged when a woman joins a groups such as this one. Even though you have had many exposures to CDs, TGs,
etc. I suspect that it is different when the person is a SO. I have a good friend whose wife treats me very nicely but she is not nearly as understanding with her husband. I think that is because I am not "her man".

I hope that you can find what you are looking for here.

Welcome, Eva!

Thank you everyone for the welcome.

Can anyone direct me to which area i would go(or request) to get stories, input, support, advice from other SOs and CDs/TGs?
I understand that the SO area is just for SOs.
I would like to say as well that having separate areas like the SO which is strictly only SOs is very nice. It feels good to have a place i could go to share how i feel without worrying i am accidently insulting anyone which i would never want to do. I have been somewhat holding back some of my feelings because i don't want to make this process of his a negative one because i don't think it is at all. I am trying to encourage him to explore more into it.

Eva -

You're a member of the GG/SO-only group, as you requested earlier. All you have to do is scroll down to that section on the Index page and click on either of the sub-forums there. As this is a private area, you must be logged in to the forum before you can access those areas.


- SL

Hi Eva,

Really really glad you have joined.

The feeling we think we have are often challenged when we have to apply them to our real day-to-day life. It is an eye opening experience. Also, it is a process; rarely an ah-ha moment.

Please ask, explore, vent, laugh, cry in the private, or even not private, forums. That is what this community is for. And, please, offer your own response and outlook on the topics you see posted here. Composing a response helps clarify what your really feel. And besides we are all here to learn in one way and another, your perspective helps everyone learn.

Kelly.

Hi Eva, aboard.

Nice to hear your BF was open about this side of himself/herself before tying the knot, and you are not completely turned off.

Welcome Eva to the site.

Hello Eva, welcome to the forum

Hi Eva. It is great to read of your support for your BF. Welcome to this friendly Haven.

Welcome Eva! As you've found out and others here have expressed, accepting a CD as a friend is much different that living with one.
Don't be shy in opening up in your concerns, fears, and feelings.

Eileen