Crossdressers-Haven.com

Just joined this group last night and l have been reading online for years but never had the courage to join in but l have reached a point in my life that this is who l am and l can't change. I started when l was about 9 or 10 dressing in my moms things in private or when no one was around. I don't know why but it just felt right and very exciting at the same time. I have committed the cardinal sin by not being honest with myself or my wife, l kept pushing the envelope further and further and my wife is just about done with me. I have recently found out she has been seeing an old boyfriend and has signed on to an adult dating site. I want our marriage to work but l don't know if it can. When l told my therapist about myself it was the biggest relief l have ever had because there is such a stigma and so much bigotry over this subject and l was fighting my true self for so long it was a a relief to let it go. I can't change, l have tried but it keeps coming back, l have told my wife that you don't know how it feels to dream about women's clothing almost every night knowing that this isn't normal for most people but is who l am. I am trying to set boundaries l don't dress in front of her anymore but l think l have caused too much damage.... I will always love her and be there but l have to be true to myself also now. It is great that l have another outlet to share my feelings over this and l am so glad to be here. I have been working real hard to be the way l want to be now. I have lost 45 lbs. since last July and now down to 169..l can rock a size 12 dress now!!! Anywho enough about me for now just letting u know l am glad to be on here...

Welcome, Kendra.

I feel you need a frame for your thoughts. Like one can obsess about all the various details of one's life, get lost in them, and not see the main point. Miss the wood for the trees is another way of putting it.

Welcome aboard Kendra! Your story sounds similar to mine in many ways.. I fought through the same battles as to who I am and who I feel I need to be. Lost a 20 year marriage recently to someone I loved dearly, however it's opened the door for me to follow my hearts desire.

Hi, Kendra, and welcome to the Haven!


- SL

Welcome, Kendra!
The situation sounds familiar. Wife wants a "Real Man", not a girly-man.
Later, she realizes how good she had it.
Tough bananas. I'm gone.

Welcome Kendra, hope you have a great time here

Hi Kendra, aboard.

Seems that, since your wife has already committed adultery, trying to please her by not dressing only hurts you.

Welcome Kendra,

I'm glad your on here as well. Its a great place to just share your feelings, thoughts, fears, and triumphs (yes there WILL be some).

Post early and often.

Kelly.

Hi Kendra and welcome to this supportive and friendly Haven. It is sad that things have gone so far with you however you have now found a supportive home where you can share, discuss, seek advice and openly display your feelings and emotions to a large number of experienced persons in a non threatening environment.

Welcome, Kendra.

I can relate to your story in many ways... You will find a lot of support here.

Welcome, Kendra! And hope all the best for you.

Rikki

Hey Kendra,
Didn't say anything about your family situation and I think that is always important! If your wife has brought a boyfriend into the picture - overlaying my values here, so don't judge me - and I'm guessing there are no children in the picture, so.... OMG I'm not the one to give advice in this situation. Your on your own girl! Hope others on the board can give you good advise but welcome.

Hugs,
Alisa

Hi and welcome!