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Thought I would say "Hi!" My name is Keri, I live in NY and "label" (lol) myself as TG. My experience transcends crossdressing, and at present I am exploring just how far my TG needs will take me, be it a full transition or no. I am married with children, so there's the complexity factor.... I am presently in counseling for my issues and am heading back to school this Fall prospectively for a program geared toward being able to practice as a LCSW for TG issues.

from a canadian girl , hope you enjoy yourself . Sstephenie g

Hi Keri
Welcome to this wonderful place from me across the pond
Kay

Hi Keri--
Welcome to the group. That's a rough spot you're in, trying to figure out just how far you want or need to go. We don't have as much information here about transition as some forums do, but not all TG concerns are about transition itself. Certainly there is a lot of writing here about the best ways to talk to children about this.

Hi Keri, aboard.

Hi Keri,

Welcome to the forum.

Hi Keri,

Welcome to the forum! Like Anita said, the board's pretty much geared towards crossdressers but all are welcome and you may find that this here's an awesome and very supportive group of gals.

I wish you happiness and success on your journey; it's a very tough one.

Love,
CJ

Welcome to the Fourm.

Welcome

Most of us have the same issues you do. I for one am in your situation, married with children. Feel free to share your story and don't be afraid to ask.

Hiya KeriB...

Welcome to our little place on the web. Just pull up a mouse and have a seat.

Sunny

Welcome Keri, hope you enjoy meeting the group. Just jump in and get to know everyone its a nice place to be.

Hugs

Fran

Hi, Keri, and welcome to the Forum!

- SL

Thanks so much all for the welcome.... where I am now essentially started last November when my wife and I started to discuss a number of issues, my CD'ing being one - I had purged about seven years ago and never looked back but had occasional thoughts. Well... she said she didn't really have issues with it (woman-speak, she actually did I discovered later on...), so I kind of jumped back in with both feet - ordered a new wig, bought some clothes, got my first set of breastforms... she even got into it to a degree, buying me makeup and even bringing home a new outfit or two as a surprise. Things were going really well and I was very happy and excited... and beginning to think seriously about my future.

One underlying issue for my purge I have discovered was a thought in the recesses of my mind, what if I keep this up and want to be a woman? Well, I guess that desire was pretty well compartmentalized, more so that I even didn't realize it. As my wife started to read things online and join Tri-Ess S.O. group, she started to ask questions - she asked me about the TG, TS, etc. labels, and I told her I considered myself "TG." Which I do - I am certainly not a CD - way beyond that, the clothes really are not the focus and I am happy just being dressed in nice shorts and a cami lol. I just want to be a "normal, everyday" gal.... Like seemingly everyone else, I started to CD pre-teen right through teens and then sporadically later as life would allow - at these times, it was a clothes fetish more so, but now the clothes are just so much "fluff."

Sorry for this drawn-out tale - I think it was Christine who asked for my story LOL... So in March of this year, I went out for the very first time, to a regional TG event held at a local venue... simply amazing the first time stepping out. And then my biggest step thus far has been to venture into the "real world," in Atlantic City, when I went out to a shopping mall, shopped, drove around and even walked on the Boardwalk and thru the Hilton Casino - all by myself. it was something I had to do and to face on my own, and I damn did it lol!...

So, back to the home front, issues started to pop up not too long after my first "out." And since then, things have been in a slow decline to the point of now, where we don't talk about my issues at all, I have no desire to dress most times nor even shop, though that is changing. And, my wife has said if she knew how "far" this would go, she would never have been a part of it... I am in counseling weekly, and I am trying to get up the nerve to attend a TG support group... and I am suffering through summer! For those interested, you can check out my blog at kerib.spaces.live.com, where I typically post a daily bitch, lol.... But seriously, I am just trying to share my story in the hopes that someone else sees they aren't the only one out there in my sit. Sometimes that's difficult to realize, and I know just how solitary this can be - my only support net is a virtual one, and I do hvae some great online friends... now if I could translate that to RL it would be awesome. Anyways, thanks for the welcome!

welcome keri,

i think it is nice that you want to help others with TG issues. hopefully your wife will hang in there with you.

lynn

Hi Keri,

I hope you will stay and share with us also. The LCSW aspect targeted toward "us" is a comendable goal. It would be interesting to see how your "professors" accept your goals!

By the way, I am a NOTS, for lack of a better description = non-op Transexual. We don't like labels but we all have to know where we are on the continuum.

Virginia