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I often laugh when people write and tell me how “centered” I am, because, like most people I experience a wide range of emotions. I have deep needs for connection and intimacy…but my feelings can easily get hurt.

Our awareness of our inner selves and desire to connect to each other are great gifts and should not be underestimated. The goal is to find the right tools to allow us to make the best use of our natural gifts rather than living our lives worrying about what the external world might think or how they might react to us.

Self-acceptance is not something that you tell yourself to have, but rather the result of paying attention to your innermost feelings and desires with care and compassion.

Lilly
Too many of us live our lives constantly ready to judge our bodies, our feelings, and our thoughts against a false external standard. How often have you lost track of your own essence and found yourself living according to what other people want and expect of you.

Real success comes from being in touch with what makes us tick and feeling comfortable in our own skin (regardless of whether it is shiny, bumpy, fur-covered, scaly…)

This is Rex Barker C.S. (Connecting with Sensitivity) reminded that “Connecting” shouldn’t involve changing yourself in order to make someone else happy.

I believe that living a fulfilled life comes from learning how to listen to your inner voice, to the truth of your inner being in all of the ways that it speaks to you, and to live from that sacred place.

OPPS!!!!!!!

I ment to sign at the bottom of the message


Lilly

Hi Lilly,

Great post! And so true, so very true.

By the way, did you know you can always edit your own posts by clicking on the "Edit" button in the upper righ-hand corner? If no one's added to the thread since your last post, this will be an "invisible" edit; otherwise, the number of times as well as the date you last edited your post will show in small script at the bottom of your post.

Love,
CJ

Good post Lilly,

The topic title Something I found on "A Laugh A Day" and the content is confusing, Is there some kind of a joke to this?

While I basically agree with what this says I don't think it is quite complete.

Self-acceptance is not something that you tell yourself to have, but rather the result of paying attention to your innermost feelings and desires with care and compassion.

What about times we become angry and makes mistakes in judgments, or say something to someone that hurts them which we later regret? What do we do with that? Do we not need to accept that as a part of us also? or do we vow to never do that again, knowing full well we do not have the power to be successful with such a commitment.

Yes, Lilly, a very good post indeed.

Darlene, if I may...?

I believe that what one knows, in their heart, to be true will be true.

If you "know full well [you] do not have the power to be successful with such a commitment" then, you will not be successful.

If you know full well that you do have the power to be successful, you will be.

The power comes from within.

Hi Kathy.

Are you then saying that all we need to do then to become perfect is to know full well that you do have the power to be successful.

I am confused, I thought you agreed that it is impossible to be perfect? Are there not things in each and every one of us that we would rather not have? Do we not have warts that we can not rid of? How can we accept and love ourselves if we don't accept those things as well? Or is cross-dressing the only thing that we have that some of us would rather not have that we can't get rid of?

What are you trying to communicate here?

Hi Darlene,

I believe that, in my posts, I used the phrase "...few, if any would achieve...". I don't believe I ever used the word impossible. I tend to leave that word for the physical scientists to use. And few of them ever use that word.

No, I believe that the power to achieve perfection does lie deep within each of us. But, unburdening ourselves of all of the negatives heaped upon us by others and even ourselves throughout our lifetimes is difficult. And it is that which we must do in order to achieve the clarity of vision within ourselves to find and touch that power. As long as there is the slightest doubt, that goal will not be achieved.

But each of us, in our day to day lives, are able to tap into at least some of that power. If I walk out of my house on Monday morning, totally convinced that I will be employed by the end of the day, then I will be. If there is even the slightest hint of doubt, I will not.

So, when you find yourself thinking "I cannot do..." try turning that around to become "I can do...". To borrow a line from Lawrence Fishburn in "The Matrix", "Don't think you can, know you can".

The more we do that, the closer we come to achieving our goals. I, for one, have a very long way to go.

Hi all,

Could be that loving ourselves encompasses even our inability to adequately do so, no?

Love,
CJ

OK, before Beauty takes us all to the woodshed for entering into another drawn out philisophical discussion under "Links of Interest", I'm going to copy the text of my post regarding perfection and start a new thread under Coping.

See you all there?

With thanks to Lorna: from the movie "Bruce Almighty" -- "BE THE MIRACLE" It does not say, expect a miracle or pray for a miracle or wait for a miracle - BE THE MIRACLE!!!!
Girl Power!!!!!!
Love,
Deborah