Paula Ann - Thoughts

[Paula Ann]

I live with my long time gf and her 27 year old son... both have known I crossdress for many years. My gf's son, we will call him dan is basicly lazy and has no plans on getting a job which of course upsets me. Today I found a way to turn that anger into something fun and liberating.Normally I would not walk around the house dressed, but today i thought screw it... why am I hiding from him! I went into the kitchen multiple times in a skirt and blouse, and when i heard him walking in my direction i just stood there. The first time he saw me you could see the surprise in his face... but by the forth time no reaction. I think in the next couple days i will wear a dress

Paula Ann

[Rikki]

Do you think that this revelation will encourage him to be more motivated? Or now that he knows your "secret" he might just settle in as more of a slug? That is the challenge with the current generation: dreams and motivation.

Anyway, glad you now can enjoy your time at home with him there.

Rikki

[Davita]

The only way to get rid of lazy children is to simply stop supporting them. Stop feeding them, stop doing their laundry, stop giving them spending money. Complain about them to them all the time. Make it worse than having a job.

The fact that he's already "yawning" at you fem means you have done nothing to motivate him to do anything. At least though, you are free to be you more openly.

[Eileen (SO)]

My thoughts exactly, Davita.
A 27 yo with no job is a bum. Does he really think he'll get a girlfriend with no cash, and bring her to Mom's house?
Dress as you like in 'your' home, Paula Ann.
This child is the problem, get a job or get out.

Eileen

[Anthony Simon]

If you're going to dress up in front of him, you can go a step further and use the classic female technique of nagging him.

[SilverLady(SO)]

True, Anthony . . . but the nagging generally works better if the one dressed en femme is not also sporting a mustache and beard; I know this from photos that I deleted in the Gallery (although the outfits themselves were very nice).

Yes, I fully understand that some cannot shave them off without having to answer a lot of questions, but that is when they must ask themselves who they really are.


Sorry, but it is extremely hard to take any CD or TG seriously when dressed like that.


- SL

[Eileen (SO)]

So true, SL. My husband sported a full beard for 30+ years. It turned all grey and then I found out about 'her'. The beard came off, he looks younger and she looks wonderful.

Is nagging only done by women? Nagging only works if the naggee knows deep down that the nagger is right. In this case, this 27 yo fetus really doesn't care. You, Paula Ann, are just Mom's BF living on his turf. What does Mom think about his lack of motivation? Unless both of you are united in message, Mom will be his protector.

Eileen

[Anne Bonny]

I agree...but living with your gf....her son too....tread carefully that would be between her and him, but is not out of bounds for discussion with the gf tactfully and carefully.

I agree with other's here that some tough love is needed for the son's own good...what a tragic course for this young man's life...Not to do anything significant with it or to have any ambition other than sponging off his mother and joining the dependent hangers on of our declining society.