Developing a personal style

[Anne Bonny]

As a gender fluid person my appearance is ever changing and evolving as I begin to blossom as a person.

First for myself is maintaining my level of fitness, and my slender frame. Being at my weight and healthy full of energy.
(167.6 for a 5'9.5" medium framed male is not bad at age 58!)...164.6 after my run today.

Second is just going with the flow of my gender as it continually evolves and changes it is this which leads me to choose or adjust my appearance.

I have found out who I am and as I begin to come completely out of the closet a place I refuse to spend the remainder of my life I am thrilled and confident and loving life and who I am as a person. I do not believe I have ever experienced internally this absolute assurance of who I am.

So we have at our disposal the full range of clothing, and styles.

Presently I have clear coated nails, glossy red toe nails, smooth hairless legs that I maintain, I am allowing my hair to grow out again and use make up to varying degrees as desired.

Clothing may be masculine, feminine, or a mix and match.

Jewelry can also be masculine, feminine or mixed and matched.

I think because I have larger hands and am male masculine jewelry does not detract depending as a very dainty necklace or bracelet and ring may look very dainty indeed on us and masculine jewelry can be just as pretty and attractive with feminine attire on us because after all we are men. I love my gold rope necklace and gold anchor, my gold chain link bracelet and I have spotted a pretty ring on HSN with faux diamonds that I believe is rather fiminine in inspiration and on a larger finger would be just fine.

I am going outside in the sun in my jewelry and nails and make up, and short shorts...not yet in a dress or skirt but as I acclimate I believe it will be alright eventually. I am considering telling my neighbor at some point then I would not have to be concerned or fearful that I would give them offense. I have their respect, keep my yard up, and they know I am shouldering the care of my wife and parenting our sons alone.

Day to day style is experimenting to find out what looks good on us with our body not everything does, when we leave the realm of fetish to actually wearing feminine or mixed clothing depending on where our gender is then just as women do we will find what works for us, our own personal style and that is the goal to look relaxed, comfortable and attractive as well. It is an interesting challenge and yes I do look in the mirror, sometimes I just do not like what I see but I am learning and getting better. Fashion beauty and everyday it is really very good to be who I am.

Aw man!...Woman!... my cheap bracelet was just that...cheap. At least HSN provides a label and all I had to do was affix the provided USPS label to it stating I just did not like it and wanted a refund then stick it in the mail box...on monday to be a little safer... It looked huge and cheap like something out of a bad TV gangster show - yuck! It was gaudy like something Elvis would have worn! Suppose I will just have to go shopping locally to replace the bracelet that I lost.

[Eileen (SO)]

Anne,
You'll find your personal style in time. What makes you feel comfortable and still be part of the family and community in which you live. Mix or match gender clothing, it is what it is. It's all about you.
Just as any young lady does.

Eileen

[Anne Bonny]

Thanks Eileen...I do have ladies outside of this site I speak to It is really great! I was about to post again as the thoughts come about the importance of developing a personal style. The thoughts are being comfortable in casual clothing that is right for what I happen to be doing. Being at home caring for my wife here in the summer that is my ladies jean shorts, and flat leather flips and a man's Nautica T shirt this morning with lingerie and enhancers. ladie's Nautical watch, a little shell bracelet and small silver clip on hoops things I had purchased for my poor wife who now will never ever use them but I can and allow them to enhance my look. My nautical gold rope necklace with the gold anchor - really a men's piece but I am a man and have no plans to change any of that, I love women but I enjoy the same sense of pretty feminine style because I feel feminine within nothing wrong with that I can be that and yet I am still a man the fluid nature of my gender does not alter my personality or sexuality it is just the gender that is fluid. Sometimes I feel my masculinity and go with that but he has his style. Oh Seadresa (on youtube)...Grace the 23 year old New Zealander nailed it with that statement. I have clear coated my nails couple days ago, and my red glossy toe nails have been that way for a while. Shaved my legs just a light dry shaving this morning to maintain their smoothness to the touch. And worked on my eyebrows, not much to work with, I tweezed a little between and some on the brow ridge from the center of the eye outward but I never pull wild hairs just clip them and pull out any that are white, my brows are very light. with that sometimes some eyebrow powder in brown or a light coat of mascara...did my foundation a tan powder, eye liner above the upper lashes with the eye shadow light on the brow bone, brown over the lid, and dark to lift the eyes on the outer bone ridge and blended some. Mascara of course. Oh and Outlast lipstick to last all day long with a chapstick kind of covering over that after the color drys...about a minute.

When I look in the mirror It is quite acceptable and looks fine I mean for me it is the best I can do along with being very fit and thin and healthy 166.6 this morning. I am going to try yet again to overcome my resistance to changing my lifelong hair style by allowing it to grow out over my ears...chin length so that I can style it according to how the wind is blowing... It is very difficult for me though because when it is growing out over the ears it just looks unkempt and ratty...I feel like a dufus and then my conditioning as a man begins to kick in telling me I need to fit in with other middle aged and other men in general the classic regular haircut. It is SO difficult to accept a different style for my hair!!! So hard! But I want it longer it will be so much better than a wig and if it were longer I could look into some clip on hair extensions perhaps...But when I had it almost there last time I enjoyed being able to style it and have it look feminine - that I really enjoy and like but my male side seems stuck wanting it short. It's an internal battle but many british men have the longer hair and it does look good It just doesn't seem to look so good on me or perhaps it is just a psychological acceptance a barrier I need to overcome. Well 1/4" per month takes several months to grow it out...I will save on hair cuts...suppose to have it shaped properly I will need to visit a gender neutral hair salon or shop and will have to explain myself to the lady cutting it...Hey...I want to be able to style it both ways because I am gender fluid but not metro really...not too flamboyant but able to make it look flamboyant and feminine...hum. Oh well as you say it takes some time to figure out whats best for me. Thanks, Anne

[Melissa Mac]

I think we all develop a style as time goes on. I know when I first got out on my own and dressed on a regular basis I had one. Then again I was 22 and it was a lot different than my style of today. Back then it was short skirts and way too tight tops. Now I am almost 42 and I try to dress age and situation appropriate. Sure I wear short skirts but so do a lot of 40 something GG's. I have a decent figure when I pad properly, I generally wear an 11 or 12 depending on how it is cut. If I had to put a label on my style of today it would be soccer mom. Gee, does that mean I have to get a minivan?

[Anne Bonny]

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