My son's story

Chantel(SO) · Post by **Chantel(SO)** » Mon Jun 28, 2010 5:10 pm

I know how my 10 year old son Gabe started crossdressing and he was 7 at the time,I was in my bedrom doing something he saw a necklace of mine he liked.He did try it on and liked it.Than it was the clothing and it was hard on me at first.I thought it was my fault at first asking myself what was wrong with me and I was told it was not by my mom including my husband Robby.I was not told to give up on him by my husband.My mom said the same thing.I never gave up on him knowing I gave birth to him and began supporting him.It was after that,his female side Gabby came out right out and I knew there was something about his female side.His female side was very nice and calm which has been to this day.I truely love my son Gabe knowing he is this way and expressing himself.

Lacy Mitchell · Post by **Lacy Mitchell** » Mon Jun 28, 2010 7:36 pm

chantel support is one of the greatest things your child will ever need and he will be a lot closer to you because of it. lacy

Chantel(SO) · Post by **Chantel(SO)** » Mon Jun 28, 2010 10:08 pm

His female side Gabby and I are very close which I do take him shopping for clothes.I know Gabby very well, loves pink and purple for colors.

Dolores(GG) · Post by **Dolores(GG)** » Mon Jun 28, 2010 11:11 pm

I have to applaud you as a parent for being so open and allowing yourself to really care about your child and what they are feeling. Few parents do that. So many worry about how they will be looked at by others or how their kids will be perceived and stop thinking of their children's true happiness, well being, and development as a person (at what ever age). The fact that you respect his views on his identity is a great example. I think this forum will help you to help him be not just a happy and well adjusted CD'er...as well as an overall individual.

Chantel(SO) · Post by **Chantel(SO)** » Tue Jun 29, 2010 5:46 pm

I care about my son Gabe and he knows this.He is the oldest,I l also have an 8 year old son Karl and a 7 year old daughter Victoria.My daughter says Gabby is a great big sister to her

Allison Jacobs · Post by **Allison Jacobs** » Wed Aug 04, 2010 2:43 pm

you deserve the mom of the year award, when i came out to my mom i was 16 and it went bad, very bad. it took a long time to get over. no matter how things turn out, your son will be much better off knowing you love him unconditionally, no matter what

Azurielle · Post by **Azurielle** » Sat Aug 14, 2010 11:33 pm

It has always been my belief kids are gentle, if a bit aloof and agitated, whenever they feel comfortable in their environment. Giving support now is probably the most wonderful thing thing you can do.

Davita · Post by **Davita** » Sun Aug 15, 2010 9:00 am

Way to go Mom! Thanks. Myself, I snuck around for decades not so much because I didn't think I was going to be supported, but "I was the only one." I had no idea there was a whole world of us girls. When I finally did come out to Mom (Dad had passed), Mom was actually worried not because of who I was but for how I could be treated. Darn, I should have come out to her when I was a teen instead of a married girl of thirty years or so.

Again, thanks for being such a good mom.

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Sun Aug 15, 2010 12:01 pm

Davita,

I totally agree with the 'being alone in this' angle, I spent over thirty years thinking I was the only one. We had no way of communicating with others like us until the internet came along. I much prefer the situation now and if I had my time again I would certainly have come 'out' much younger.

Joan · Post by **Joan** » Fri Oct 29, 2010 11:55 am

Like Susan I was also very much alone. I was sure there were others out there but no possble way of connecting with them. I remember a couple of documentaries on closet Cding. One guy was a resigned naval officer he talked about his activity and showed his female clothes and lingerie, but at no point in the programme was his identity or face exposed.

My wife used to do Samaritan work for a period of time and she received numerous calls from CDs, most wanted to chat anout their female clothes, waht they were wearing or what they had purchased recently.

Although my work entailed considerable IT use i did not start to use home internet access until about 10 years ago. My son had a PC and i was curious what searches would find as regards my CD activity and dressing preferences. I was probably not to good at covering up my search activity, I never know whether my son looked at the recent browsing list.

Joan

Nancy A · Post by **Nancy A** » Tue Nov 23, 2010 12:12 am

Chantel--I wish I had someone who understood whenI was a child! You are a blessing!
Nancy