Big Day Today

[Paula G]

I had some time, so, well I did what we would all do, I dressed. I was out and about in Surrey, I must admit feeling and looking more comfortable as Paula than I have before. I did a round of the charity shops, tried a few dresses, bought a coupe of skirts, - one totally too short and deffinetly too pink - had a cup of coffee, went to the bank and then back to the car.
On my way back I realised there was a man behind me, then he engaged me in conversation, said how nice I looked - well I felt complimented I would wouldn't I?, then we introduced ourselves, and he asked me out for a drink,,, or something. WOW he was hitting on me!!!! well I just flashed my wedding ring and said sorry and left it, but am I bad for feeling rather good about this? maybe he is just a pervert but he did notice me, didn't freak out and was nice about me. I have wondered since what if I had said yes to a drink?
Met up tonight with and old male friend to whom I have recently, very recently come out and told him about being chatted up and this realy did phase him, in his book I have always been the one doing the chattting up.

[Davita]

Yep, it was a compliment and yep you can like it. So your friend said you're the one to do the chatting up, huh? I would say that maybe your confidence and basic openness showed through as Paula and that made you approachable.

[Paula G]

Thanks, maybe you're right yet I feel like a differnrt person, if anything Paula is more confident - I know we drink differnt coffe go figure that one!

[KimberlyS]

Yes you should feel complimented. And being in a committed monogamous relationship you did the right thing to just accept the compliment and then stop it from going farther. I always wore my wedding band when I went out and about enfemme and my estranged wife bought me a ring to wear with it that I thought was just great.

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joe in a skirt

[Tara M]

Yes it is a nice compliments to get chatted up, it's happened to me a few times. Most of the time it's fun and exciting.

Once though I had this middle eastern/asian looking guy follow me down Oxford Street. He was sticking to me like glue and no matter what I did, there he was. I tried dashing across the road just in front of traffic but he kept up with me, I turned round and went the other way hoping he wouldn't want to make it look like he was following me. I even tried to lose him by stopping at a make-up counter in John Lewis hoping that he'd get bored and bubbles off.

In the end I had to get on a bus and jump off again just before the door shut leaving him trapped on board. I then legged it in the opposite direction so when he got off at the next stop and ran back I'd be gone. This was not complimentary, it was scary. I did wave to him as the bus left though!

[Susan]

I echo Tara's first comment in that it is nice to be approached and it is a compliment when someone tells you you look nice.

The latter is the downside of looking good, this is not our 'fault' or our problem, the problem lies with the creep stalking you. That is what it was.

I have had to fend off unwanted attention at times, only once has anything approaching violence happened. The guy tried groping and was only dissuaded by me grabbing the little finger on the offending hand and me threatening to break it if he didn't leave me alone. I smiled sweetly as he stalked away muttering something I didn't hear.

Having said that, 99.9% of the time nothing happens and I view it as part of the territory we chose to occupy. It certainly hasn't deterred me from going out when ever I can.

[Carol Ann]

As simple as it is when I went out I always was wearing women wedding rings. Found a set in a pown shop many years ago for $50.00