Well--I haven't posted much and this will probably continue.
Work and life have been very bust resulting in very hectic schedules. etc. Thats good and bad -- hectic is stressful, but income is good right now.
Even with everything going on, I have been able to get out about once a week and, since I work from home I have been able to dress most days. Its hard to comprehend that its only been about 15 months since my wife found out and I went out dressed for the first time about 1 year ago (with her help).
In this year (again with her extensive tutoring and support), I have gotten fairly proficient at putting on a face, dressing presentably, and passing. Its been almost surreal how well it has gone and how much fun I have been having.
On days I am dressed, she'll often send me out on errands --its a win win situation!
Two weeks ago we went out and braved the crowds and spent the day shopping. My wife said she really enjoyed it -- she no longer worries about my passing-- she is confident that I present well. She said it was just like shopping with one of her girlfriends, only better since we know each other so well -- we had a blast and shopped till we dropped! She bought us matching semi sexy jammies!
This weekend we went out again. Saturday I went and picked up a few last minute items and then tried on party dresses and gowns! It was so fun -- and was just one of the girls in the dressing room area as we came out of our booths to look in the big mirrors and get others opinions, and zip each other up (and unzip too).
Sunday we went to downtown Chicago and went to a Tea. We both dressed up a bit for that. I wore a tea length grey dress, low cut in front, with lace overlay and sparkles, and black boots (3 inch heesls). Hardest part was the strapless bra I was wearing and praying that everything stayed in place. Stormy wore a beautiful dark red velevet tea length dress and boots also. That was all so enjoyable -- we didn't want it to end. After the tea we did a little shopping, and Stormy found some very cool shoes and boots --some which I ended up buying --me and a bunch of other women in Nordstrom Rack fighting for a place to sit down and try shoes on,etc. All part of the experience of being a woman shopping!
Stormy also remembered me (Melyssa) for Christmas and bought me some beautiful earrings, ballet slippers, and lavender bath set.
All in all, its been wonderful. For the next 2 -3 months I will probably only be able to get out about once a week for a short time. Less opportunities for dressing though since I will be travelling to meetings and conferences, etc --but its ok because everying is going so well overall.
I will continue to monitor the sight when I can and keep up with whats happening!
Happy Holidays to all of you!
Its been busy but satisfying
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Melyssa Anne
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Virginia
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I am so happy for you and your wife (so far) has accepted Melyssa. We sure hope that that continues and if it has been this long I guess we can assume that most of the "bumps in the road! have been smoothed out!
I have to stick my nose in here and kind of play "devil's advocate" and if you don't want to discuss it, well I will understand. Have you two talked about who your wife is going out with?? Her husband, in a dress? Or, a girlfriend? Does she see other people looking at you two a just a couple of girls out shopping or as a "couple." I would say this also, if you have not talked about it, then perhaps now is not the time. It is something better left up to her to bring up.
I am sorry if I seem to be meadling in your business, but I know that there are those on the forum that would be interested in how your wife perceives her relationship with her "girlfriend."
Is your wife a member of the forum here? I can't seem to remember if she is or not!
Anyway, congratulations on achieving probably the ultimate in success for what we are all wanting.
Love,
Virginia
I have to stick my nose in here and kind of play "devil's advocate" and if you don't want to discuss it, well I will understand. Have you two talked about who your wife is going out with?? Her husband, in a dress? Or, a girlfriend? Does she see other people looking at you two a just a couple of girls out shopping or as a "couple." I would say this also, if you have not talked about it, then perhaps now is not the time. It is something better left up to her to bring up.
I am sorry if I seem to be meadling in your business, but I know that there are those on the forum that would be interested in how your wife perceives her relationship with her "girlfriend."
Is your wife a member of the forum here? I can't seem to remember if she is or not!
Anyway, congratulations on achieving probably the ultimate in success for what we are all wanting.
Love,
Virginia
First star to the right, then straight on 'till mornin!
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Melyssa Anne
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Virginia --I understand the reasons and purpose of your quesitons. I have no problems addressing them. Stormy and I have talked this out at length and continue to discuss it as we feel the need.
When I first started going out dressed, she was very protective of me and watched me like a mother hen -- sometimes we would walk together and sometimes she would fadce back to observe me and others around me. We have never had any problems (happlily) with others -- not even the dreaded pack high school girls which I have run across periodically. In the first few months, she was clearly going out with her husband dressed up -- but as time went on that changed.
This summer, we went on a long weekend and I was dressed the entire time. She told me on that trip that it was one of the times when she quit worrying and started to enjoy being out with Melyssa.
She says that Melyssa is similar to her husband, but has a slightly different take on some things...and is fun to hang out with, shop with and discuss fashions, etc with.
When we are out now, she said it is being out with Melyssa -- one of her girlfriends and the one she most likes to go do things with. She also said that she sees others looking at us as two girls out shopping -- but not as a couple. That would bother her and she has made that clear as well. When we are shopping and end up talking about me as her husband, it is in the third person, and she even made up a husband for me....lol -- so she will ask would they like this or that if she is thinking of purchasing something for the house, etc.
When I am dressed around the house, its some of each. That is, sometimes she treats me as her girlfriend, and sometimes as her husband in a dress/skirt. Seems to vary depending upon what else is going on.
We have a "sleepover" type atmosphere about once every other month where we get silly and try different makeups, beaty treatments, clothes, styles, and fashion looks -- If we have a major outing planned, thats when we will try on different outfits to see what we like best.
So, like I said, this seems like a dream in many ways. Things between us have never been better, I have her support, I am out on aregular basis, and life is pretty good at the moment. I'm a lucky girl and a lucky guy.
When I first started going out dressed, she was very protective of me and watched me like a mother hen -- sometimes we would walk together and sometimes she would fadce back to observe me and others around me. We have never had any problems (happlily) with others -- not even the dreaded pack high school girls which I have run across periodically. In the first few months, she was clearly going out with her husband dressed up -- but as time went on that changed.
This summer, we went on a long weekend and I was dressed the entire time. She told me on that trip that it was one of the times when she quit worrying and started to enjoy being out with Melyssa.
She says that Melyssa is similar to her husband, but has a slightly different take on some things...and is fun to hang out with, shop with and discuss fashions, etc with.
When we are out now, she said it is being out with Melyssa -- one of her girlfriends and the one she most likes to go do things with. She also said that she sees others looking at us as two girls out shopping -- but not as a couple. That would bother her and she has made that clear as well. When we are shopping and end up talking about me as her husband, it is in the third person, and she even made up a husband for me....lol -- so she will ask would they like this or that if she is thinking of purchasing something for the house, etc.
When I am dressed around the house, its some of each. That is, sometimes she treats me as her girlfriend, and sometimes as her husband in a dress/skirt. Seems to vary depending upon what else is going on.
We have a "sleepover" type atmosphere about once every other month where we get silly and try different makeups, beaty treatments, clothes, styles, and fashion looks -- If we have a major outing planned, thats when we will try on different outfits to see what we like best.
So, like I said, this seems like a dream in many ways. Things between us have never been better, I have her support, I am out on aregular basis, and life is pretty good at the moment. I'm a lucky girl and a lucky guy.
Missy
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Anita
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That's just a great post, Melyssa. It really brightens up the day, to read about how you and Stormy are out there, and the activities you do.
It helps to be fairly passable. I could see why your wife does not necessarily want to be seen to be part of a couple, but would rather you and she are perceived as two women friends out together.
It helps to be fairly passable. I could see why your wife does not necessarily want to be seen to be part of a couple, but would rather you and she are perceived as two women friends out together.