Not a chance.
The transformation is one thing, but as stated above there would be significant consequences.
Work, friends, family, hobbies.
Even if the consequences there were removed, I still would not want to.
I relate to the world as a male. It works for me and I am at peace with that.
Even if I am a male with a few 'non-standard' characteristics.
I am sure I am repeating others' comments now, but we are here with a common bond, but all on somewhat different journeys. I am pleased to be able to enter into these discussions.
shenica
If you were given the chance to become a woman- would you?
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Shenica
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CJ
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Hi all,
On October 24th 2004, I wrote: To be honest, this is the kind of question I'd have to ask myself on a regular basis, say, once a year. Well, it might be time for me to look at this question afresh.
Given that I suspect I might be more than "just" a crossdresser;
Given that dressing, for me, is only occasionally associated with my sexuality;
Given that I seem to have been putting any thought of relationships on hold;
Given that I'm not currently nor have ever been married;
Given that I have no children;
Given that I'm already "out" to my family and friends;
Given that most people I know would support me on a transsexual journey--family and friends included;
Given that, when I see a woman walk by, I wonder not what it would feel like to be in her clothes but in her skin;
Given that I don't fit in well at all in the world of men;
Given that I'm much, much more comfortable in the company of women;
Given that, over the past year, my gender identity has been sliding over to the female end of the spectrum;
Given that I have a very strong desire to "pass" (whether or not I can do so successfully);
Given that my earliest recollections (at around age 4) are of my wanting desperately to be a girl;
Given that I have a serious case of womb envy;
I now have to say that I think I would effect such a change. I would take the pill.
On the other hand, I'm still trying to work a lot of this out in my own mind. I don't have the face nor the build to be a woman (although I may very well have the mind and the heart for it). I'm currently seeking out a gender therapist that might be able to help me figure this out.
I've seen posts that refer to a fear of losing one's "manhood." I take this to mean a fear of losing the sexual pleasure it brings. The thing is, women have sexual pleasure, too, so this isn't something that would be lost. It would just be different, is all. In response to notions of "being happy with who and what I am" (and I said as much last year), I'd have to add that I would still be happy with who and what I am, regardless of whether I'm a man who just likes to occasionally dress up as a woman or a man who actually wants to be a woman.
By the way, this is not--I repeat: this is not--a "transsexual coming out" post; my answer to the original question may yet be different a year hence. I'll just have to see where life takes me.
Love,
CJ
On October 24th 2004, I wrote: To be honest, this is the kind of question I'd have to ask myself on a regular basis, say, once a year. Well, it might be time for me to look at this question afresh.
Given that I suspect I might be more than "just" a crossdresser;
Given that dressing, for me, is only occasionally associated with my sexuality;
Given that I seem to have been putting any thought of relationships on hold;
Given that I'm not currently nor have ever been married;
Given that I have no children;
Given that I'm already "out" to my family and friends;
Given that most people I know would support me on a transsexual journey--family and friends included;
Given that, when I see a woman walk by, I wonder not what it would feel like to be in her clothes but in her skin;
Given that I don't fit in well at all in the world of men;
Given that I'm much, much more comfortable in the company of women;
Given that, over the past year, my gender identity has been sliding over to the female end of the spectrum;
Given that I have a very strong desire to "pass" (whether or not I can do so successfully);
Given that my earliest recollections (at around age 4) are of my wanting desperately to be a girl;
Given that I have a serious case of womb envy;
I now have to say that I think I would effect such a change. I would take the pill.
On the other hand, I'm still trying to work a lot of this out in my own mind. I don't have the face nor the build to be a woman (although I may very well have the mind and the heart for it). I'm currently seeking out a gender therapist that might be able to help me figure this out.
I've seen posts that refer to a fear of losing one's "manhood." I take this to mean a fear of losing the sexual pleasure it brings. The thing is, women have sexual pleasure, too, so this isn't something that would be lost. It would just be different, is all. In response to notions of "being happy with who and what I am" (and I said as much last year), I'd have to add that I would still be happy with who and what I am, regardless of whether I'm a man who just likes to occasionally dress up as a woman or a man who actually wants to be a woman.
By the way, this is not--I repeat: this is not--a "transsexual coming out" post; my answer to the original question may yet be different a year hence. I'll just have to see where life takes me.
Love,
CJ
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No way, no way, no way! All of the guilty pleasure associated with crossdressing would be gone. Ask any girl how much they like wearing bras all day, dealing with periods, etc. If you're a GG, it's just something you have to do... there's nothing special about it. And, of course, in my case it'd never be a consideration mostly due to my wife and kids. She married a man, loves being with a man, and heck--most of the time I love being a man!
However, as stated in at least one of the previous posts, if there was a way to transform back-and-forth at will, definitely!!!!! I'm entirely too tall (a tad over 6'4" without shoes or socks) to easily pass in public, but would give anything to be able to do just that.
However, as stated in at least one of the previous posts, if there was a way to transform back-and-forth at will, definitely!!!!! I'm entirely too tall (a tad over 6'4" without shoes or socks) to easily pass in public, but would give anything to be able to do just that.
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I to would do it if I was able to switch back and forth. Or maybe switch for a week/month or to just to feel what is was like to be a real female. Maybe the first time it would be exciting, then I would know more if I wanted to stay that way or just go to visit. Or maybe we could find out how to switch with our SO,like in the movies, to see what each other goes through. I would gladly switch bodies and be my SO if I got the chance. Anyway,it would be nice to find out though, 
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Hi girls!
This is a good one. I have been going over and over in my mind what I would do if there was a pill I could take that would change me forever into a female and the woman I have always wanted to be. Would I take it?
So far my answer to this question has been, it depends on which day it is and what has been going on in my life at that point in time. At times I would grab it up and swallow it not even waiting to wash it down with water. Other times a team of horses could not drag my hand close enough to even pick up the pill. Then again at still other times I would wonder what if I only took a half or portion of the pill?
I guess my answer would have to be no, I would not take the pill. My being Nancy or my being my male self are not parts of me. I am not a segmented animal. I am one. I am a hole. I am not one without the other. To take the pill would mean cutting off part of that hole creature that I am. The question may as well been, what part of your self do you no longer want to be part of you forever?
This is a good one. I have been going over and over in my mind what I would do if there was a pill I could take that would change me forever into a female and the woman I have always wanted to be. Would I take it?
So far my answer to this question has been, it depends on which day it is and what has been going on in my life at that point in time. At times I would grab it up and swallow it not even waiting to wash it down with water. Other times a team of horses could not drag my hand close enough to even pick up the pill. Then again at still other times I would wonder what if I only took a half or portion of the pill?
I guess my answer would have to be no, I would not take the pill. My being Nancy or my being my male self are not parts of me. I am not a segmented animal. I am one. I am a hole. I am not one without the other. To take the pill would mean cutting off part of that hole creature that I am. The question may as well been, what part of your self do you no longer want to be part of you forever?
Nancy Elizabeth Lee
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Kyra
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Hi Ladies,
I can't believe I missed this one first time around. I think it's something most of us have pondered at one time or another. I'm no exception. Truth is there is a part of me that would love to be GG. There is, also, a part of me that wishes to remain exactly who/what I am. That portion of me is the dominant one, so my answer is No.
But I can still dream.
Hugs,
Kyra
I can't believe I missed this one first time around. I think it's something most of us have pondered at one time or another. I'm no exception. Truth is there is a part of me that would love to be GG. There is, also, a part of me that wishes to remain exactly who/what I am. That portion of me is the dominant one, so my answer is No.
But I can still dream.
Hugs,
Kyra
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Still playing catch up here but better late than never.
The thought of taking a pill to do that would be very tempting but with the consideration of my family, that would be enough reason NOT to want to do it. Now If I was single, the temptation might be greater but I would worry that I would miss the guy in me. So again, no, I probably wouldn't do it.
Stephanie
The thought of taking a pill to do that would be very tempting but with the consideration of my family, that would be enough reason NOT to want to do it. Now If I was single, the temptation might be greater but I would worry that I would miss the guy in me. So again, no, I probably wouldn't do it.
Stephanie
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I thought Valeries comment that she would love to switch with her SO for a while was very interesting and raises this question to a whole new level. Would I want to be my SO for a while.
The first answer is a terrified no. What if I didn't like being married to me?
2nd answer is another terrified no. She is a teacher, a terribly demanding job. I already know that I could in no way cope with her career. I have tremendous repect for her ability to have the job she does.
But..........if I could be her as a girlfriend or buddy for a while on summer vacation, that would be nice.
On to another question. What would we want to be rid of in our past? THis is not anything that changing gender would help in any way. My chief regret is how for so long and in so many ways I approached life in a very fearful manner. Changing gender would just render me a fearful woman.
So long term, definitely stay who I am now. I've worked to hard to get to become the man I am to give it up.
Andrea
The first answer is a terrified no. What if I didn't like being married to me?
2nd answer is another terrified no. She is a teacher, a terribly demanding job. I already know that I could in no way cope with her career. I have tremendous repect for her ability to have the job she does.
But..........if I could be her as a girlfriend or buddy for a while on summer vacation, that would be nice.
On to another question. What would we want to be rid of in our past? THis is not anything that changing gender would help in any way. My chief regret is how for so long and in so many ways I approached life in a very fearful manner. Changing gender would just render me a fearful woman.
So long term, definitely stay who I am now. I've worked to hard to get to become the man I am to give it up.
Andrea
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Hi,
CJ summed up what mainly applies to me - I leave out those which do not apply in my case an insert a couple of remarks or changes in square brackets:
In a major city, it should not be impossible to find a gender therapist or at least one, who is sympathetic to the TG topic and willing to educate her/himself. I went to the local LGBT-counselling and got very good advice and finally a therapist.
... and I would take the pill. Better eat a pill than this gender thing eating you up.
Best
Xenia
CJ summed up what mainly applies to me - I leave out those which do not apply in my case an insert a couple of remarks or changes in square brackets:
Great post, indeed, CJ.CJ wrote:[...]
- Given that I suspect I might be more than "just" a crossdresser [Xenia: actually I am quite sure that I am not just a CD - that's why I see a therapist];
- Given that dressing, for me, is only occasionally associated with my sexuality;
- Given that I seem to have been putting any thought of relationships on hold;
- Given that I'm not currently [...] married;
- Given that I have no children;
- Given that I'm already "out" to [some] friends;
- [...]
- Given that, when I see a woman walk by, I wonder not what it would feel like to be in her clothes but in her skin;
- Given that I don't fit in well at all in the world of men;
- Given that I'm much, much more comfortable in the company of women;
- Given that, [...], my gender identity has been sliding over to the female end of the spectrum;
- Given that I have a very strong desire to "pass" (whether or not I can do so successfully);
- Given that [since childhood I want] [...] to be a girl;
- Given that I have a serious case of womb envy;
I now have to say that I think I would effect such a change. I would take the pill.
On the other hand, I'm still trying to work a lot of this out in my own mind. I don't have the face nor the build to be a woman (although I may very well have the mind and the heart for it). I'm currently seeking out a gender therapist that might be able to help me figure this out.
[...]
In a major city, it should not be impossible to find a gender therapist or at least one, who is sympathetic to the TG topic and willing to educate her/himself. I went to the local LGBT-counselling and got very good advice and finally a therapist.
... and I would take the pill. Better eat a pill than this gender thing eating you up.
Best
Xenia
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would I?
in a heart beat. I'd be camped out in front of the door all night in line, making damn sure I got my share of meds or whatever it took.
I'd do it now, if I knew where to go, to find a MD.
so far, no one will talk to me. but then, this is wisconsin........
no one here seems in favor of TS/TG. I don't know yet what i'm going to do.
ronnie
I'd do it now, if I knew where to go, to find a MD.
so far, no one will talk to me. but then, this is wisconsin........
no one here seems in favor of TS/TG. I don't know yet what i'm going to do.
ronnie
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Phylis Anne
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being a woman full time
for me at this point in my life i enjoy dressing and belonging to cdi where i can be my feminine self for as the old tv show queen for a day,but if i was just getting out of the navy and someone told me that there was something new that could transform a guy into a gal and it was fullproof i would haven have said yes and gone and done it .i dont even think i would have looked back and just start enjoying myself as the woman i always wanted to be.but we snap back to reality and we all are what we are .love phylisanne 
My name is Phylis Anne and I am enjoying my life as a crossdresser and being a woman who loves life
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if you were given the chance to become a woman
The answer to THAT question would have been an very resounding YES.
But I have been down that road about 12 months ago with trips to all the relative medicos , the results were a little disappointing in that, my physical features are really too masculine , without extensive surgery, and my voice would still be very masculine, also my age is against me, plus the lack of a bank balance of approx. $28,000
So I have to be content with de-furring body from neck to toes, painting finger nails, plucking eyebrows, and my pierced ears, plus wearing ladies tops, jeans, stockings/sockettes, bras & panties are obviously included.
But that's life for pat
But I have been down that road about 12 months ago with trips to all the relative medicos , the results were a little disappointing in that, my physical features are really too masculine , without extensive surgery, and my voice would still be very masculine, also my age is against me, plus the lack of a bank balance of approx. $28,000
So I have to be content with de-furring body from neck to toes, painting finger nails, plucking eyebrows, and my pierced ears, plus wearing ladies tops, jeans, stockings/sockettes, bras & panties are obviously included.
But that's life for pat
Keeping them cupped comfortably.
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If I could take the pill, and it would last for only a month, I would take it and go on a month long vacation. I would not want to give up all of my life as I have it. It would hurt to many people at this late date. If part of the month long vacation as a pretty girl meant I would for always have breasts(which I already have) and a vagina, even after the month but could with proper clothing still pass as I am now, I would, I have been hiding my breasts for several years.