The MIL and my wife's friend who drives her mother over, they live about 70 miles away...not far enough...came yesterday. What with Mardi Gras up and down the coast...I don't go to the parades...seamy and lots of drunks thought they work hard to have a family environment anyway they throw aluminum coins, plastic beads, moon pies, cheap plastic toys and various candies from the floats as each float crew association has a theme and music.... Anyway the MIL finally made a comment on my hair. She said I need to have my hair cut because it "makes me look old" that it does not look good. I told her I like it and my opinion is the only one that matters. Of course they have no clue that I have been half female all of my life and love to wear feminine clothes on and off...
The longer hair is really a recognition of that fact. So I believe it is going to stay long from now on, the compromise being up to me of course but probably somewhere between chin length and the ear lobes. But who knows ... could go shoulder length and put it up in a pony tail as she commented....I replied I am not going to grow it that long. But that is of course up to me.
Her 80 year old mind set is the one we grew up with when we were young and the adult generation frowned on boys who had grown long hair in the late 60's through about 1980 when men's styles generally reverted to short till today it seems most men have their hair shaved down to 1.5 inches or shorter. I am glad crew cuts and flat tops have gone the way of the narrow mindedness of the 1950's when suppression of male femininity was extreme.
I love the challenge of overcoming my physical male body as in this current avitar. It is interesting, challenging, and so much fun when I feel I have been successful in altering my physical body so that I appear to be a woman with a female body. I know the ocean of prospects for me among women shrinks to a small puddle of water but I suppose that is also a challenge. There are women out there and I will need one who is self confident, strong, and with a will be actually tend toward dominance over me but not in an overpowering way. Someone who actually prefers, is attracted to and encourages me to my feminine side. I am someone who needs a hug and reassurance that everything is going to be ok...I am someone who needs to feel loved and that there is someone there who backs me up. These are certainly feminine feelings because a man is expected to be like granite, showing no emotion, as the storms of life crash against him only considering solutions, planning, and executing the plan...there to support and provide and be strong not the other way round. My wife used to tear into me anytime I felt the other way...worried, unsure, down, needing and wanting a hug and reassurance...because only women are allowed to feel this way. I was to comfort her and be like a rock, it's all I was allowed I was to be the one reassuring and providing a hug and not the one showing weakness. Thing is I am partly feminine and I slip into these feelings because I am. So I need a woman who can be very much like a husband at times.
Yeah...nice and convincing...except for my very large fingers and hands...there are some things we are just stuck with and cannot really do anything about...manicure and polish, lotion but does not change their size, shape, the veins and the aging skin...Oh well. Thing is gender is on a spectrum and mine happens to be towards the middle of it, I was born this way.
It is surprising how closely I resemble my sister when she was younger...Of course that is because we ARE sisters.
