(Background for anyone who needs it--Like Joanna, I"m full time for several years. Unlike Joanna, I'm not on hormones.)
Hi Joanna,
I recently have been noticing that many of my reactions to people are male. Some of my friends (like my hairdresser) have a way of bringing them out. She has a way of teasing my sexuality out, for instance. No, she doesn't get me to say anything really inappropriate. Yesterday we were discussing fashion. I showed her some fashion mag pictures I thought were amusing. She claimed to be bored with fashion (though in fact, she dresses very fashionably!). I said I keep in touch with fashion, not because I follow it slavishly but because it lets me know what will be in the stores (so I can buy what I like and not waste my time there). She didn't understand that, and I got the impression that I was thinking male (again).
Question for everyone: Was I thinking male, or do some GGs think that way too?
Question for Joanna: Do you find that hormones cause you think less male?
Thanks in advance!
A Question for Joanna Maguire (and anyone else)
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A Question for Joanna Maguire (and anyone else)
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Mid-life Crisis
As we grow older, male hormones diminish, is a well-established verified scientific fact. It seems to be a large part of the "mid-life crisis" that many men experience. The mid-life crisis seems to be especially pronounced for crossdressers. It often results in an increased desire to crossdress, an increase in frequency, duration, etc. Some crossdressers even realize they are transsexuals at this stage and begin transitioning. If that scares SOs, my apologies.
For me, my midlife crisis was very pronounced. There were some profound realizations associated with it.
I was, statistically speaking, now over halfway to death. I had lived over half my life, and during that time, I had tried to live by somebody else's rules and that had made my life unmanageable. (No, I didn't need a 12-step program, just a little clear thinking). I realized it was now time to take charge of my own rules and live in a way that I believe will benefit myself and others. Crossdressing became OK.
This was brought home to me soon after the Crisis by a more important crisis. On one daily walk, my chest was in pain and I had great trouble walking uphill. A few visits to the doctor and it was clear I had angina, blocked arteries that supply blood to the heart. This led to a balloon angioplasty to clear out the arteries and to the further discoveries that I had high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and diabetes. Medicines and major changes in diet and exercise followed. But as I lay in the hospital after having come closer to death than I cared to, I realized that my time on this earth was shorter than I thought. My determination became even stronger to enjoy this short time and really make good use of it helping others.
That was one of the big parts of my decision to allow myself to crossdress more, even full time if I wanted it (and I do).
For me, my midlife crisis was very pronounced. There were some profound realizations associated with it.
I was, statistically speaking, now over halfway to death. I had lived over half my life, and during that time, I had tried to live by somebody else's rules and that had made my life unmanageable. (No, I didn't need a 12-step program, just a little clear thinking). I realized it was now time to take charge of my own rules and live in a way that I believe will benefit myself and others. Crossdressing became OK.
This was brought home to me soon after the Crisis by a more important crisis. On one daily walk, my chest was in pain and I had great trouble walking uphill. A few visits to the doctor and it was clear I had angina, blocked arteries that supply blood to the heart. This led to a balloon angioplasty to clear out the arteries and to the further discoveries that I had high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and diabetes. Medicines and major changes in diet and exercise followed. But as I lay in the hospital after having come closer to death than I cared to, I realized that my time on this earth was shorter than I thought. My determination became even stronger to enjoy this short time and really make good use of it helping others.
That was one of the big parts of my decision to allow myself to crossdress more, even full time if I wanted it (and I do).
Love and respect,
Rikki
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Hi Rikki,
Wow.. Even more I didn't know about you.
Not only are you a beautiful person, you're also strong and brave.
I'm very glad you made the decisions you did. I don't know if you've read all of the posts I've responded to you on (on the CDDF), but the majority of them were praising your wisdom.
You are so wise it's incredible.
Take care and thank you more than words can say!!!
Beauty
Wow.. Even more I didn't know about you.
Not only are you a beautiful person, you're also strong and brave.
I'm very glad you made the decisions you did. I don't know if you've read all of the posts I've responded to you on (on the CDDF), but the majority of them were praising your wisdom.
You are so wise it's incredible.
Take care and thank you more than words can say!!!
Beauty
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Hi Beauty,
Well, I've tried to read all of the posts you and everyone else writes in response to mine on the CDDF and here too. May have a missed one or two.
And yes, I've been struck there, and even more bowled over here(!) by your warmth and generosity of spirit. Your responses to me are unfailingly courteous, feminine, friendly, and positively expressed. But even more impressive are your responses to each and every one of the posts by New Members here. You really take your job seriously and your presence here is one of the things that makes this forum such a Beauty-full place!
Well, I've tried to read all of the posts you and everyone else writes in response to mine on the CDDF and here too. May have a missed one or two.
And yes, I've been struck there, and even more bowled over here(!) by your warmth and generosity of spirit. Your responses to me are unfailingly courteous, feminine, friendly, and positively expressed. But even more impressive are your responses to each and every one of the posts by New Members here. You really take your job seriously and your presence here is one of the things that makes this forum such a Beauty-full place!
Love and respect,
Rikki
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Wow.. thanks! 
I do have to thank Shannon and Sharon for their board.
I think most of the credit should be given to them for putting this awesome place together. They both rock!
I'm just a talky talk. lol and they said, "Hey? Let's let ms. talk 2003 answer people, she sucking up all of our bandwidth anyway." 
lol.. God bless them both!!
Thanks again to both of you for saying that (Alexandra and Rikki!)
Beauty
I do have to thank Shannon and Sharon for their board.
I think most of the credit should be given to them for putting this awesome place together.
They both rock! I'm just a talky talk. lol
and they said, "Hey? Let's let ms. talk 2003 answer people, she sucking up all of our bandwidth anyway." lol.. God bless them both!! Thanks again to both of you for saying that (Alexandra and Rikki!)
Beauty