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I wonder if one of the reasons why so many of us do it is, more than anything else, our desire to do something outrageous.

Teenagers have always loved to be outrageous, to shock, to rattle the bars of the cage that their culture has built around them. As a kid, it was fun to be naughty. As an adolescent (for some) it was fun to vandalise and to paint graffiti where the impact would be greatest. For some, they wanted to be caught, and then laugh in the face of authority (police, parents). For the more timid, the thought of getting caught was terrifying, but it just added to the adrenaline rush and the fun.

I find an element of all those things in my own CD activities, and in the activities of others that I read about on this forum. We may have more in common with the other 'rebels' in society than we think.

QUESTION : if CDing was not an issue (let us say everybody dressed the same and there was no such thing as femme clothes) what, if anything, would you do to be different and to push the boundaries of the envelope?

Rattling the cages of culture -- that's what nonconforumists like myself do all the time.

Ginny

I am past the age of wanting to push the boundaries of the envelope? I am sure there will be no shortage of those who are willing to take my place though.

I am sort of like that now, being a goth. It still seems to shock some people, but even goth is being excepted(or being ignored)

If it wasn't the clothes that shocked people, it probably be tatoos or strange body piercings, maybe even body mutilation of some sort. Body mutilation is probably the next phase of shock, just what I think. Or some kind of strange plastic surgery to make you look shocking. I don't know if this will come about, it just seems the logical next phase. Everything else has been done.

Love Amelie

If I want to shock people, I can with no problem..but I have no desire to do so, as I enjoy just being me...sat quietly in the corner,saying little unless I have a point to make I feel is valid.

Howdy Ginny

Good question! Myself, I have tattoos, I am Wiccan and wear a pentacle in plain sight always, I'd get piercings, but I can't wear any sort of metal except pewter. Some weird allergy I have, even to surgical steel For my next societal mind blower Once I am absolutely certain Ahzz and my company is fianacially secure and successful, I will be getting a tattoo somewhere on my face I have been thinking about a white Jasmine vine It should look pretty spiffy!

*Hugs & Love*

Being outrageous is what I LIVE for.

But as a NYer that can be very hard to do in a city where people have seen it all - CDs can pretty much go anywhere with very little reaction from folks out in public, if any at all.

So I go a couple of steps further. I have two large tattoos on my arms and am comtemplating a third... Depending on my mood I dress anywhere from mildly goth to really outrageous. I have some wigs with the blue hair extensions and will totally go nuts with the makeup so that's pretty much my way of standing out & "shocking the masses".

Always gotta stay one step ahead...

I don't really like shocking people, like Eloise I'm happy to sit in the background and get on with my little happy life lol

Sophie xx

My CDing may shock. But it is not how I shock and amaze peopple now.

I turn the sensor off in my brain for my mouth. I am the joker, Quasimodo when I need to be . 4 feet tall with a hunch and a false accent. Remember I am 6'6" and under 300 lbs. (Finally)

I do it to let folks,especialy small Children relax, having been percieved as a monster for most of my life. That revelation hurt. I need to think!!! Still no regrets. Look for a tirade on monsters soon.

Lorna

love the photo you posted above. Is that really you? Easy to CD round NY if you look like that, I'm sure you pass, no problem.

It's gotta be the only way to live . Sometimes you got to push to the edge. Needra

There is a slight problem with the premise in that if everyone was andgogenous (whatever?) Then something would have had to happen in society for everyone to be that way and that would be no fun at all. I will stick with my dress code of "conservatively sexy!" I saw a GG the other day in a store and she had on a light grey business suit, skirt slightly above the knee, white blouse, and 3" heels and she looked, "consevatively sexy" I could not stand it, I (En Drab) walked up to her and told her "You look fantastic!" She blushed and I just smiled and walked away!
Love,
Virginia

Virginia wrote: I saw a GG the other day in a store and she had on a light grey business suit, skirt slightly above the knee, white blouse, and 3" heels and she looked, "consevatively sexy" I could not stand it, I (En Drab) walked up to her and told her "You look fantastic!" She blushed and I just smiled and walked away!

Not to go off topic, but I think it's wonderful that as CDs, many of us can walk right up to a woman and give her a compliment without it sounding like a "line". It's a beautiful thing...

It isn't really my style to be outrageous or to shock. Any surprises I spring on people are usually intended to be pleasant, but much of the time I prefer to tread the rice paper with out tearing it, to walk on the sand without leaving footprints, to cross the stream without leaving a wake. If I do something outrageous or shocking, it's usually the result of some devastatingly embarassing accident. I don't dress to short out people's circuitry.

-Celia

Ginny wrote:Lorna

love the photo you posted above. Is that really you? Easy to CD round NY if you look like that, I'm sure you pass, no problem.

Thanks hon! Yes that's me with a wig I wore about 2 years ago. In a place such as NY, it's relatively easy for CDs to go out & about without many negative encounters. In NY, regular CDs are no big thing anymore.