Anonymous wrote:Hi Jamie Ann,
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Hugs,
Wendy
Hi Wendy,
I seem to have gotten myself into a debate I did not really want, but let me try to respond to your questions.
JCPenny probably sells more bras than all other vendors combined? Do you have any data to back that up?
JCPenny is a Fortune 500 company. If you really believe my claim is false, I will search for industry statistics, but I assure you that JCPenny is a much larger vendor than Fredericks of Hollywood or any other of the companies cited in this thread. My point, of course, was that Val is right. There is disagreement on the best way to measure for bra size. JCPenny recommends estimating band size by measuring
over the breast area, which I believe would be misleading for many men, whose shoulders and back muscles would make this estimate too large. For most women, with their narrower shoulders, this approach might be satisfactory.
To speak about discovering your bra size, as women might wish to do, is surreal. It is like talking about a genetic woman ascertaining her penis size — it is a fantasy exercise! Would this be a true statement if that same woman desired to wear a jock strap??
Yes, it would. If a woman were considering wearing a fake penis, she would not reasonably estimate her penis size by using some simple formula designed for men. Rather, she would choose her simulated penis from a vendor, and use the size of that device. Trying to estimate the size of a penis she does not have would be wrong-headed.
I do not mean to be too critical, but if you are a CD, you must recognize that such instructions are for genetic females, not for genetic males. It seems to me that any of the tips concerning woman's apparel, make-up, hair or any other beauty products are intended for real woman. Does that mean that they can not also be helpful to men??
There is no good answer to all the questions that are subsumed under your general question. Books on makeup written for women apply just as well to men, because there are no important difference between women and men in the techniques for using makeup. I use Kevyn Aucoin’s books, which were written for women, and find them very helpful. But in other areas where men’s and women’s bodies differ, I do
not think that we can blindly use algorithms designed for women as if they apply to genetic women and CD’s exactly the same. I am not trying to tell anyone else what to do, but my own appearance is more feminine if I de-emphasize chest size, and try to increase hip size through appropriate padding. If I followed the rules implied by algorithms designed for genetic women, I would look like a caricature of a “porn star,” with too large a chest and a disproportionately small waist and (even more so) strikingly skinny hips. Obviously, you are a very attractive person, who has mastered the challenges of making an attractive presentation of femininity. I was directing my remarks mostly to our sisters who may not have thought through the issues of making a nice feminine presentation as completely as you have.
Hugs,
Jamie Ann