Answer to Nick
Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2006 3:10 am
Nick,
Traditionally crossdressing is not about addressing the discriminations against women. It is not that crossdressers don't care about those issues, they are just for a different venue. This is not the Women'sSufferage-Forum.com. It is for issues about and related to crossdressing. Having said that, I am certain that there are many like me who simply would not condone, and did not/will not participate in the denigration of women. I don't need to confirm with a GG that is exists. I have been around men when not in the company of a woman, and there is an aire of superiority. Men do denigrate women. Not all men, but when it is present at all, it creates an obstical for women. Many religions also promote the male superiority over women, and it is justified in this way.
I understand your conclusions about your gender. I would suggest that you go and get some professional counseling. I can not imagine, and do not pretend that I can imagine the stresses involved with being in a war zone, but because of this stress, you must consider your feelings in the context of this state of mind. I dont know enough about it to tell you about your own feelings, other than to tell you I understand.
I dress full time and have known since I was 9 that I was transsexual. I hid it, I denied it, I tried to limit it, I tried to will it away, wish it away, and pray it away. I was certain I would never come out and tell the world I was a transsexual. I have a wife, kids, job, mortgage, little league football. There was no way I could come out.
I lost my house, my job, my company, my truck, my car, my exwife, my youngest son, my oldest daughter, my brother/business partner/friend. But, I have remaried a beautiful accepting woman, two of my sisters have reconnected with me, after years of estragement and are now supportive. Two of my children stayed with me and are completely supportive. All of thier friends know. I have had two of my brothers reconnect with me, and have been very supportive, also after many years of estragement. By best friend and a life long friend, both males have completely accepted me and it has not changed our relationship.
Having a gender revalation can be a very uplifting thing, and can sometimes obscure from us other things we are feeling. The first step in transitioning is not necessarily coming out to peers. You might consider counseling first. Perhaps an objective view of what is in your best interests. The look before you leap philosophy. Coming out could mean being labeled homosexual and you might be dismissed from the military, which could affect expected benefits from the military.
I am not saying you are not correct in everything you are doing. Only you know what is best for you. I am just suggesting that if you are correct, your feelings will withstand a healthy debate on those decisions. Good luck to you, and I am happy for you that you have made these all important realizations.
Hope this helps.
Love always,
Elizabeth
Traditionally crossdressing is not about addressing the discriminations against women. It is not that crossdressers don't care about those issues, they are just for a different venue. This is not the Women'sSufferage-Forum.com. It is for issues about and related to crossdressing. Having said that, I am certain that there are many like me who simply would not condone, and did not/will not participate in the denigration of women. I don't need to confirm with a GG that is exists. I have been around men when not in the company of a woman, and there is an aire of superiority. Men do denigrate women. Not all men, but when it is present at all, it creates an obstical for women. Many religions also promote the male superiority over women, and it is justified in this way.
I understand your conclusions about your gender. I would suggest that you go and get some professional counseling. I can not imagine, and do not pretend that I can imagine the stresses involved with being in a war zone, but because of this stress, you must consider your feelings in the context of this state of mind. I dont know enough about it to tell you about your own feelings, other than to tell you I understand.
I dress full time and have known since I was 9 that I was transsexual. I hid it, I denied it, I tried to limit it, I tried to will it away, wish it away, and pray it away. I was certain I would never come out and tell the world I was a transsexual. I have a wife, kids, job, mortgage, little league football. There was no way I could come out.
I lost my house, my job, my company, my truck, my car, my exwife, my youngest son, my oldest daughter, my brother/business partner/friend. But, I have remaried a beautiful accepting woman, two of my sisters have reconnected with me, after years of estragement and are now supportive. Two of my children stayed with me and are completely supportive. All of thier friends know. I have had two of my brothers reconnect with me, and have been very supportive, also after many years of estragement. By best friend and a life long friend, both males have completely accepted me and it has not changed our relationship.
Having a gender revalation can be a very uplifting thing, and can sometimes obscure from us other things we are feeling. The first step in transitioning is not necessarily coming out to peers. You might consider counseling first. Perhaps an objective view of what is in your best interests. The look before you leap philosophy. Coming out could mean being labeled homosexual and you might be dismissed from the military, which could affect expected benefits from the military.
I am not saying you are not correct in everything you are doing. Only you know what is best for you. I am just suggesting that if you are correct, your feelings will withstand a healthy debate on those decisions. Good luck to you, and I am happy for you that you have made these all important realizations.
Hope this helps.
Love always,
Elizabeth
