dinner with my cousin

Ralitsa · Post by **Ralitsa** » Thu Jan 20, 2011 2:50 am

Since I'm in LA these couple weeks, I figured I would meet up with my cousin whom I haven't seen in a couple years. Just now got back from that. Since I last saw her I've gotten my ears pierced, let my hair get pretty long, and decided that I will wear what I please, when I please and make no excuses about it.
Neither have I explicitly told her (or anyone) that I am a crossdresser. I guess they can figure that out by looking. So she was a bit surprised when she saw me. I was wearing women jeans, a turquoise top, and high heeled ankle boots. Her boyfriend was impressed with my earrings, they are very pretty blue dragon flies (which matched my top pretty well), hand carved and painted in Montana from elk antlers. So we talked about that for a couple minutes and then the conversation drifted on to other subjects.
We had a very pleasant time, and I was really gratified to be able to sit comfortably with a close relative, wearing what I liked and not feeling like I had to explain everything. She's pretty crazy herself, so she isn't one to jam her opinion onto somebody, and I knew she really wasn't going to care. So I'm pretty happy right now, I'm at a point where I can wear the clothes I like around the people I like, without pretending something.

Theresa_W · Post by **Theresa_W** » Thu Jan 20, 2011 8:40 am

That's Great, Ralitsa!

Glad you had a good time. You are an inspiration!

Thanks for sharing that with us. :-)

Post by **DonnaT** » Thu Jan 20, 2011 8:55 am

Very cool.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Thu Jan 20, 2011 9:32 am

The non eventness of it is very cool. Maybe you just seem super unconventional, which of course it seems like you are anyway.

Rikki · Post by **Rikki** » Thu Jan 20, 2011 11:58 am

Wonderful to have family and friends like her!! And you're an inspiration, too!

Rikki

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Thu Jan 20, 2011 12:49 pm

Bravo Ralitsa

way to go.

Best wishes

Ralitsa · Post by **Ralitsa** » Thu Jan 20, 2011 1:36 pm

yeah, like Absaroka said, the non-eventness of it was very cool. Maybe because it's LA, maybe just because she is pretty cool with everything anyway, maybe because everyone already knows I'm weird. Anyway, I just can't get over how great it feels to just hang out comfortably wearing whatever I want.

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Thu Jan 20, 2011 4:08 pm

Ralitsa

I (my male half) has spent a lot of time in Southern California and in the places I have been, tolerance was not high on the agenda. I would have loved to introduce people to Susan but in a foreign country 5500 miles from home and on my own, I did not feel it was quite the right time.

I am very happy it went well for you.

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Thu Jan 20, 2011 6:00 pm

That's nice to hear about, Ralistsa. Wearing what you want to wear out into the word feels like finding out that you can fly, and you just didn't know it all this time.

Kary · Post by **Kary** » Fri Jan 21, 2011 6:13 am

I will do the same as you have motivated me to do the same

Kyra · Post by **Kyra** » Fri Jan 21, 2011 8:30 am

Really cool, Ralitsa and might I add...very brave. Congrats on being who you wanna be.

Hugs,
Kyra

Ralitsa · Post by **Ralitsa** » Sat Jan 22, 2011 1:13 am

thanks a lot girls, for all your kind words. I am very gratified by your support. I know you can understand how nice it feels to be accepted and valued exactly as-is, and you ladies sure make a girl feel that way.

Vivian · Post by **Vivian** » Sat Jan 22, 2011 1:26 am

Ralitsa,
That is so wonderful, and I wish I was in the position to do just as you did. Lots of hugs for you.

vivian

Erica S · Post by **Erica S** » Sat Jan 22, 2011 8:50 am

Way to go Ralitsa,

It is nice to hear you had a good time.

Hugs,

Erica