Have we all gone too casual?

[Karen Ski]

Curly wrote about being non-judgemental in other's appearance and I have to agree with her on that. I was not trying to be judgemental nor put anyone down. I guess coming from a strong Roman Catholic background, not that anymore, I was raised one put one's best foot forward in church. Granted that was a long time ago and things have changed is all I was trying to point out. I agree that hose and heels can be a pain, especially in the heat and I am by no means recommending we go back to the old days but I think a little effort and a dignified appearance at times might do a lot of people good.[/quote]

[ChristineK]

Ill go to the wood shed just fine thanks! Say and do what you must.

Thanks for the input. I charred in flames both sides equally and grilled the other 50% same.

I think it is perfectly OK to go to Wal Mart in Flippys. But out to dinner or work is a bit much for men or women. Our idea of business dress and dress casual has slipped to beach bum status. We are so consumed by comfort (both sexes) that we just don't try anymore.

I think us CD try harder than the real thing and put up with more to pull it off and are happier trying. My wife has agreed that point.

I am all for be who you want to be, but friends of mine have said to me "my husband dos not find me attractive anymore" Hello!!

[Virginia]

Christine,

It is with great feelings of love and caring that I pass on to you the keys to the WOODSHED! I have spent enough time there for three girls, perhaps it is someone else's turn. One of my first trips was for this identical topic. Actually I will have to say that you are getting off easy! I think I got "slammed" by at least five GG's and they were not quite as nice as some were this time!

Good luck and take it like a woman!!!!!!

Love,

Virginia

[Curly(SO)]

Lol!....you know you love it in there, Virginia

I agree with you Donna, some flip flops are uncomfortable to wear, but a well fitting leather pair are really comfy! I just love the feeling of almost bare feet and love the feel of the leather post between my toes

I have worn wear flip flops to work but it is very much casual dress where I work (for good reason, you'd understand if I gave you a list of some of my duties!) I don't wear them anymore as they are banned for health and safety reasons

Don't get me wrong I do and can dress up if it's appropriate or an occasion wear it's nice to do so but the Stepford Wife look on a daily basis is not for me

Love,
Curly

[KimberlyS]

How does one get passed the feeling that they are going to fall off the feet when walking?

When you figure it out let me know. Why I do not like mules or any other backless shoes.

[ChristineK]

Christine,

It is with great feelings of love and caring that I pass on to you the keys to the WOODSHED! I have spent enough time there for three girls, perhaps it is someone else's turn. One of my first trips was for this identical topic. Actually I will have to say that you are getting off easy! I think I got "slammed" by at least five GG's and they were not quite as nice as some were this time!

Good luck and take it like a woman!!!!!!

Love,

Virginia

Thanks!

I will be happy to voice my opinion and take ridicule accordingly. people are people and no one sees eye to eye.

Case in point I am trying to be a woman as a man. Who sees eye to eye with that than you all?

If you like flippys wear em but don't ask me my vote with out an honest reply.

This post started with do we dress to casual and I still say yes! We dress way to casual to some events like work or other more important situations. One that was a big deal was a group of girls who met the president of the USA and they showed up in flippys, drew big news in the US.

[Stormy(SO)]

LOL Donna - I too usually have a death grip on flip-flops with my toes. I grew up in the era of "dressing" for church and then listened to Mom dissect all the women in church. I also endured some really ugly looks when I wore jeans to church because I was working at a stable and could get an hour off for church but not two hours to change, go to church and then change back to return to work!! I sat in the back of the church and God didn't seem to object - just the mere mortals <G>!!

I am typically over-dressed because I grew up in a northern suburb of Chicago and we thought dressing down was wearing our hair in a pony tail! Now I live in a far more northern suburb of Chicago and when I wear a dress to a school concert people still look at me cross-eyed. I wear what I want, when I want and stand tall and proud and dare you to comment <weg>

Stormy

[Anne Murray (SO)]

I think thats a sign of the times, like it or not, its happening. For myself i would not dream of going out to a formal place without being smartly dressed. Its like the habit of going bare legged has crept in, thats fine for casual wear, but if dressed smartly, i prefer to wear tights or stockings depending on the outfit
Anne

[CJ]

Oh, cool! Some new folks are going to the woodshed? Build a campfire; I'll bring the beer and marshmallows! We'll let the poor wretches out in the morning!

Seriously, people, IMNSHO (In My Not So Humble Opinion): "Dress and let dress!"

Love,
CJ

[Georgia(SO)]

Virginia - do you have multiple keys to the woodshed, since it appears that many of us will need our own set?

OK. Having come of age in the late 60s and early 70s, when we - me and my friends and my generation - fought like the dickens to ditch *all* dress codes, and when we made the argument that God really was ok with it if we wore our jeans to church, I am really not into castigating people for their clothing choices.

OTOH, I more or less agree, in theory at least, with the idea that possibly society has become a bit too casual in our approach to things. Several years ago, DH and I went to my son's high school band concert. We dressed as we thought appropriate. He was in a suit, I was in a dress and heels. People looked at us as if we were nuts - including my son. OTOH, he *knew* that we had dressed up for his important night. (We work at home - business casual is often our jammies...). Many of the other parents were in jogging suits or similar bum-around clothes.

We did the same thing for a 1st grade play when DH's granddaughter was living with us. While their mother thought we were nuts - and said, "it's just a school program!", the granddaughter and her little sister were really impressed that this was dress up time - the 1st grader was impressed that we dressed up for the occasion - the little sister was thrilled silly to get to wear her pretty dress.

This past spring, when my son graduated college, we gave him a suit for graduation. A nice one. He protested that he didn't really need one - his hoodie and jeans were fine for everything - but when DH took him to a real suit retailer, who measured and pinned and altered it to fit his skinny frame, said son saw himself in the mirror and really liked the way he looked - the kid stood up straight, had a gleam in his eye and a sparkle in his step.

Now, as I said, I am fully of the generation who fought for girls to be able to wear pants to school, for us to be able to wear jeans to church, for people to be taken for who they are, not what they wear. And I still agree with all of that. Except that a part of me also says that there are occasions that are worth dressing up for. And a small part of me regrets the loss of that sense of formality in society.

I also regret that society has forgotten how to write a thank-you note and that brides and grooms are registered at Wal-Mart with a shopping list of every possible item, including brand name and model number.

-georgia(so) - riding the cusp between Emily Post and Roseanne Barr