What kind of woman fit's who you are?

[Ralitsa]

well somebody has to say it, so I guess I will. As much as I hate to admit it.
I can't honestly say I'm any kind of woman. I have a good friend who is one of the few people I can speak openly and honestly with. She told me once "you could never be a woman, you have no sympathy for people." And that's true. She didn't say it to be mean, it was just an observation.

So I fit that description of Eileen's of the guy jerk wearing women's styles.
True, there are some occasions when I will put in all the effort to pass, but even then whether I do is questionable.

To answer the question of why I would go through all the trouble of shaving, make-up, etc. Well I love the feel of tights or nylons, and the way my legs look in them, so it's either shave or itch to death. I was at a salon one time in Allentown PA taking make-up lessons and she asked me whether I wanted to be able to pass, or what was my intent. To which I answered "My goal is just to look a little less ugly than I otherwise would." She laughed and said "that's what we are all trying to do."

As far as mens fashions, I have no problem wearing a nice suit, tie, shined shoes etc. And truthfully, it can be every bit as troublesome to dress really fashionably as a guy as for a woman. It's every bit as troublesome, and not nearly as much fun. No man has ever said, I love the way this suit fits me. But there are plenty of times I've said "I love the way this dress fits!" And I've heard more than one guy say to a a woman wearing a cute sundress in hot weather "I really wish I could wear something like that today!!" Because who doesn't want to wear a cute sundress in hot weather??
My daughter (who is going to school in Milwaukee) and I were talking last spring. She had just gotten several dresses from her older sister. And we were talking about how fun and pleasant it is to wear a new dress in the spring, down by the waterfront, and have a coffee (hot cocoa in her case) and read a book and look out over the lake. What clothes do guys have that can bring such joy to something so simple as having coffee???

So I'll never be a woman, too bad for me but that's life. That isn't going to stop me though from wearing clothes that make me happy and bring some joy into my life. The question I have is not why a few guys choose to wear styles that are historically "reserved" for women, but why so so many guys jam themselves into such a narrow definition of manliness that they deny themselves such a simple pleasure. And speaking of being jammed in, I'm sitting in MSP airport right now thinking how horribly uncomfortable it would be to wear men's pants on an airplane.

[Victoria K.]

Ralitsa! In my opinion your as much a woman as any other. Some ask me what its like to be a woman and i tell them all the same. Its not about labels and how you look! it is all about being who you are and loving yourself. There are so many types of woman with so many ways of living. If you feel your a woman! then you are, just as simple as that. Dont ever give up your dreams! Be what your heart tells you and do not worry if it does not fit some written definition of what it should be. Love Victoria

[Ralitsa]

Thanks Victoria!!

If you feel your a woman! then you are, just as simple as that.

But of course that's the problem. I don't necessarily feel that I'm a woman, I don't even know what it does feel like to be a woman. As far as that goes, I don't really know what it feels like to be a man, I only know what it feels like to be me. << I stole that from an earlier post from some years back, I don't remember who said it (thanks whoever it was )
And that's why I have trouble defining myself, and why I hate definitions, and why I'm so happy to see the recent progress towards inclusivity and not even worrying about what category somebody should go in. I've had some people ask whether I'm transgendered, or transitioning, or planning to, or whatever. And when I tell them, "no, I'm just weird" they've mostly been satisfied to leave it at that. I suppose a sophist would argue that "weird" is a category, but I'd say that since it can mean almost anything, consequently it means nothing.

So that's it, I don't fit any "kind of woman" category, nor really any "kind of man" category.