I'm in drab!

[Kay]

It's a lovely weekend with the family but it feels like a shi**y day in paradise. I wish she wasn't so strong in me but Kay just will not be quiet, I feel horrid feeling like this as I really love to be with my family but I just want to be wrapped up in something frilly.
C

[Anita]

That's no fun, Kay. You have an embarrassment of riches being with the family, and you want to enjoy your time with them. And here's this other feeling, intruding on the day. I would hope that you get some time for yourself this weekend, too.

[CherryLynn]

Kay I know what you mean
Even when in drab mode I consider myself a woman- more of butch one

Mom knows that I love be a lady and she accepts- dad didn't- he called me a sissy more than once. Have a truce with him and I don't flaunt my feminine side, don't it mention it these days. My older sister has always been supportive but desn't want to be too open about. What we girls do for our families- I did try deny my female nature but it has come back stronger than ever.
hugs
Cheryl

[Kimberly Kael]

I know the feeling well. This year I finally came out to my family so at least they're aware of my preferences, but I have no idea what that will mean in practice. I just knew that I didn't want to go through life not knowing whether or not they'd be okay with it.

My father is definitely not comfortable with it. Surprise, surprise. I expect that means polite get-togethers where we both pretend we aren't avoiding the subject. It's unfortunate because he's generally a great guy - just conservative in surprising ways. The rest of my family has been very accepting. Some have even seen pictures from my full en femme outings in Las Vegas this spring.

I'm very sympathetic with your situation and hope you find some time to indulge yourself before long to put things back in balance.

[Kendra Lynn]

Hello Kay: I too hope you can get "dressing" time in.
My parents are both gone, so in a sense that issue is not present anymore.
I did show my mother a Halloween photo of when I first dressed publicly; that was in 1996. I did not show her any more photos, and she never saw me "dressed" in person. I think she could have handled this better with someone else's child, not her own. She did try to come up with explanations for my CDing, such as that I might have been borderline "autistic."
I am probably safe in saying that my father could not have handled this at all.
My sister and some cousins know and have seen "cheerleader" photos. I did meet my sister once, several years ago, about a week before Halloween dressed as the "cheerleader." I have tried to get her to come to the DC HIGH HEEL RACE; it's a "fun" event, lots of non TG people. But so far she has not.
I am aware that my brother in law is probably NOT comfortable with my CDing...
The Washington DC area is not San Francisco, so I generally do NOT attend non transgender events "dressed." With the exception of political protests (and music festivals with a "counter culture" type flavor, such as the Takoma Park Folk Festival) where I appear as "hippie cheerleader." (of course during Halloween week anything goes!).
Hope everyone's enjoying the LABOR DAY weekend-- I went to a one day "world music" festival Saturday and now have to buckle down and get some CD reviews done.
Peace-- Kendra Lynn ("hippie cheerleader").

[Carol Ann]

Oh Kay how well I know the feeling, school was out for summer and my house was always filled with friends of my grandson (teenager) and there was no way Carol could be around. The feeling of not being able to dress is like coming off of drugs IT'S HARD.

[Curly(SO)]

Hi Kay,

Hope you've had a good weekend even though you've been in drab...grrr... those boring brown/blue/ black clothes....I cannot even find an emoticon to go with this sentence

Ed can empathise.....having put 'Honor' on the the back boiler till B goes to Uni....now put even further back due to recent developments.



Get those frillies out now Hun!

Love,
Curly

[Stephanie W]

Kay

I think we've all been there. But as Anita alluded to, the love of a family is indeed something special. Yes, I know it doesn't alleviate the femme feelings but you could always wrap yourself in a pretty (frilly) white lace table cloth, lay down on the floor and pretend you're a coffee table.

Stephanie

[Angela Russell]

I'm right with you on this one Kay. I, & probably most of the people here, go through the same thing everyday of our lives. As you say, it's wonderful to be surrounded by your family, but the desire to dress just won't go away. Sometimes I just wish they would all go away for a while & leave me on my own, but it never happens does it. It also leaves me with feelings of guilt for thinking that way. I suppose we just have to struggle along & wait for those occasional moments of freedom to crop up. I hope you're feeling a bit better by now, & hope "she's" had a chance to come out & play.

Luv Angie xx

[Kay]

Hi Girls
Thanks for all you replies. I was having a rough day but I got my sense of humour and perspective back. It's helpful to have a place to sound off when needed and your support is always good to have. Still haven't dressed yet but that's OK.
Kay

Dear Curly
Thanks for the PM. You and Ed are something special, and I just wanted all the other girls to know that too.

Dear Stephanie

I know it doesn't alleviate the femme feelings but you could always wrap yourself in a pretty (frilly) white lace table cloth, lay down on the floor and pretend you're a coffee table.

Stephanie

That was just what I needed!