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SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 9:06 am

Jennifer, you have previously been advised:

I would also suggest you write your posts/questions in the "message body" box, not in the "subject" box.

You have just given us more insight into who/what you really are, Jennifer!

Your 'riddle' is crude and disgusting, IMHO . . . but I'll let the rest of the membership weigh in on it.

- SL

Jennifer H · Post by **Jennifer H** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 4:07 pm

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 5:36 pm

Jennifer--
You're making assumptions here that don't seem appropriate. My TG support group guidelines say, "Speak from your own experience," and that's really all you can know for sure. Any statements about how others may feel are risky at best, especially if you don't know them personally.

It's no fun being criticized by the moderators, and I've had my wrist slapped twice since I came on here. But if they have a preference for what they want, you and I are obliged to be gracious about complying the best we can. Not always easy to do, but it's a privilege to be on here--we need to be good guests.

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 8:53 pm

Anita -

Anita wrote:Jennifer--
You're making assumptions here that don't seem appropriate. ...

Thank you, girlfriend, you are absolutely correct!

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Jennifer -

I stand by my post above, wherein I wrote that it was IMHO (In My Humble Opinion) that your 'riddle' is crude and disgusting. My opinion, which was made only as a member of this forum; I made no "opinion" on your post in my position as the Site Administrator.

Jennifer H wrote:You may not be gay like me, but we most certainly do share the same passions for dressing en femme and acting like women.

Obviously you do not realize that I am a GG/SO. There is no acting on my part.

Anita wrote:It's no fun being criticized by the moderators, and I've had my wrist slapped twice since I came on here. But if they have a preference for what they want, you and I are obliged to be gracious about complying the best we can. Not always easy to do, but it's a privilege to be on here--we need to be good guests. - - Emphasis added by SL

Jennifer, as the Site Administrator it is my responsibility to ensure that the rules and guidelines are enforced by the Moderators and myself, and that the general members also follow those directives. There is no gray area in our rules and guidelines, they are strictly enforced.

Continuing with Anita's terminology, members are guests at this forum, I am the hostess, and the Moderators are also hostesses. "Good guests" are always welcome. If any guest (member) feels that he/she cannot abide by the rules and guidelines of this forum, as set forth in the Registration form as well as in the Announcements and Ask Us sections, then they are free to leave.

The balance of your comments regarding myself have absolutely no basis in fact and will not be addressed.

Enough said.

- SilverLady(SO),
Site Administrator

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 11:17 pm

Hi girls,

I have to admit that I was going to ask SilverLady to remove this post, as being inappropriate. We are a support site, primarily. We are not here to criticize or belittle anyone, drag queens included. They need support just as much as anyone.

Jennifer,

I am not sure why you are here, but so far your posts stand out like a sore thumb. Maybe you are just different and need a different kind of support? Your posts seem more like someone fishing for information than someone who truly knows and understands the experience of being transgendered.

I know this, if I were a drag queen, I would not feel supported by your joke. I would feel as if others think they are better than me. That is not what this site is about. Your experience is your experience and comparisons of your experience against others is meaningless, except to exchange information and self evaluation.

I urge you to consider the feelings of others and not be so crass. One can show their humor without being insulting or demeaning to others. This is a very compassionate place and we want to offer you support in any way we can, but this site is not about competition and back biting. Here we are all a family.

Love always,
Elizabeth

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 9:26 am

Hi, everyone -

Jennifer H made one last hurrah, and blanketed the forum with the following post, all of which have been deleted:

Jennifer H wrote:Posted: Wed Jan 21, 2009 1:44 am
Post subject: I Resign From This Entire Site. (Request Inside)

Please delete my e-mail address from my profile.

Please delete the one private message I sent from your private message area.

Please delete any original message, quote, or any of my original posts that shows my first name or my surname.

Thank you,
Jennifer H.

I presume that Jennifer has decided that she could not, or would not, abide by the rules and guidelines of our forum.

Based upon the numerous PM's that I have received during her brief time here, regarding her behavior and the tone and contents of her posts, it appears that she will not be missed.

Regardless, we wish her well and hope she receives the support that she so desperately needs.

- SL