My Beginnings and Journey

Jill M · Post by **Jill M** » Tue Dec 21, 2010 8:37 am

I come from a large family with 3 sisters (older) and in those early years always enjoyed the perfumed smell that came from their bedrooms.
Occasionally, I would sneak into their rooms, open their dresser drawers and touch and feel their underwear. That perfumed smell just seemed to penetrate their clothing and it was not long before I took a pair of panties and put them on. I had to be extremely careful and would only wear them for a short period of time. Needless to say, I was excited and this began the joys of cross dressing. Later on, I would raid the hamper and find their bras and panties and keep them on for longer periods of time and would not return them to the hamper until just before the next washday.
In my early years of marriage, I would do the same kinds of things with my wife's undergarments, but was always afraid of being caught. Later on, I began buying panties for myself, usually with other male clothing, hoping the sales associate would "not notice", since it was purchased with other items. Sometimes I got a smile.
Eventually, I purchased a set of heels online, and upon arrival was overjoyed. The first time my wife went out of the house, I immediately tried them on. Could not have felt more femme, as I walked about the house.
As of today, my wardrobe remains small, mostly underwear, and now my wife somewhat reluctantly accepts this phase of cross dressing. I would like to go further into full dress. Now, if I only could have enough courage to sit down with her and discuss where I am at. Hopefully with her full approval, we can both enjoy the next phases of this journey.

Rikki · Post by **Rikki** » Tue Dec 21, 2010 10:12 am

Baby steps are good, Jill. Welcome to this wonderful group of caring and thoughtful friends.

Rikki

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Tue Dec 21, 2010 12:32 pm

Jill

This is a gift you have. It enlightens you to both sides of the human sexual divide, not fully I know but anyone not so gifted will not be aware of what you and I do.

There is nothing wrong in this, we hurt no one, in fact one shop assistant at a department store told me she loved us as we increase her commission on make up

Do not feel ashamed, this is fun. I have reached the stage now where I do not care who knows. For anyone with the eyes to see, my pierced ears and hairless body tell a story. Sometimes women can see but men never can.

Best wishes

Paula G · Post by **Paula G** » Tue Dec 21, 2010 6:19 pm

Susan, as usual, is right, there is nothing wrong in this gift we have, however not everyone recognises this. If you can take your wife with you on this journey of discovery it will enrich you both, as well as your marriage. Pluck up the courage to talk with your wife, and make every allowance for her feelings, there is a saying around this site, baby steps.

Davita · Post by **Davita** » Tue Dec 21, 2010 9:38 pm

Openness is a good thing. However, pacing is important too. It's good you are having some dialog, part of dialog is listening. Now with that said, you can always hint and sorta guide a conversation.

It took me 25 years before I could go out in public en fem. Maybe my pacing was a little slow, but I made it and we survived.

Erin Francis · Post by **Erin Francis** » Wed Dec 22, 2010 5:13 am

baby steps are good but in your journey do not forget to take your wife along with you and as you get prettied up don't forget to pamper her as well so you both can share the experience

Andrea Elise · Post by **Andrea Elise** » Wed Dec 22, 2010 6:31 am

Hi Jill,

Once I finally accepted myself, I could, and can, walk into a store and buy clothing far too easily! It can be hard on my bank account!

I told my wife I was a cross dresser before we were married.

Started by asking her questions. Not any direct or blunt pronouncement.
It progressed over several weeks. It was painful and difficult, as I expected her to reject me completely.

I expected that rejection. I had no reason to believe in any other outcome. That was not the result. We were married September 14Th of this year. We are both very happy in our relationship.

She is not completely comfortable seeing me dressed and I am far from being comfortable dressed in her presence. We are slowly moving forward.

It is such a relief not having to to lie, hide, etc. We have no secrets.

I will not say that everything is easy and smooth.

It has not been baby steps, we are still crawling, at times, by inches. We talk a lot. Cross dressing can, and does, come up in casual conversation.

The fact that your wife knows you cross dress, I hope, will be a positive that will work for you to be where you want to be in your life.

Andrea