Let move on.

Tiana · Post by **Tiana** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 5:55 pm

That right... forget about it.

I have been fighting for it for too long. It is time to move on, I can't just stand here. Let move on
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About 3 days ago. My parent took me to a restaurant for dinner. We have a good time there. But... there, I saw a lady,who changed my view...
The lady was dressed in the restaurant employee uniform. The uniform look like it for man only, but guess what? she still look nice in it, i mean it.
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So... What is going off me? I dont know... Im not feeling better, but I learned a lesson, dunno if it good or bad, but...
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I am happy that I know that Im a girl, no matter what cloth I wear or how I look. It is their heart, cheery spirit what make a girl. Cloth is not. Move on

Leeza · Post by **Leeza** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 8:00 pm

Tiana said

I am happy that I know that Im a girl, no matter what cloth I wear or how I look. It is their heart, cheery spirit what make a girl. Cloth is not. Move on

Yes, Tiana, there is a lot more to being a girl than just the clothes. There is the attitude, the voice, the way of say ing things, and mannerisms.

Leeza

Kimberly Kael · Post by **Kimberly Kael** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 9:46 pm

Not only is there more to being female than clothing, there's a lot more to being a person than being either male or female. Balance is the key.

Given the limitations of living with your parents, focusing on the things you can control - your own thoughts and the way you see yourself - isn't a bad idea. It can be hard to remember when you're craving something to fill a need, but often a small gesture is all it takes so you know you're doing something for yourself. Some rituals that aren't obviously feminine but that might be worth considering:

Carry lip balm with you, so you can keep your lips moist and supple. The ritual of applying it reminded me of keeping my lip gloss touched up – before I was able to wear gloss all the time.

Style your hair a little. Creating a little texture with a touch of gel and maintaining a well-groomed look is something a lot of women do, and the extra time I spend in the morning helps me feel better about myself.

Develop daily cleansing habits. Exfoliating and keeping your face clean helps maintain a nice, smooth complexion. Using some moisturizer at night and in the the morning is a good idea, too, to keep your skin from drying out.

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 10:21 pm

I agree,

I have been told by a number of people that Susan's mannerisms are very feminine. My female walk I perfected in last year's fashion show but I know its more than just that. When Susan is out she swings her arms from the elbows, she also gestures more than Bob. I guess I have been going out long enough now (and watched enough women) to act like them. Perhaps this is one reason I seem to pass so easily.

Tiana · Post by **Tiana** » Sun Apr 03, 2011 12:47 pm

can you please give me more of how to act like girl please

Carolynn · Post by **Carolynn** » Sun Apr 03, 2011 9:32 pm

Hi Tiana. There are all kinds of girls, some behave more femme than others. Best if you are just yourself, and watch other girls and learn your behaviors from them. Always do what feels natural to you. If you model yourself and your actions on another girl, then you are behaving like a girl since many behaviors are learned in just that way, both good and bad, and you learn to let go of those that are not good. Be observent and if you like a person, watch what they do and how they do it. Do try to be kind to others. And talk to girls, and learn how to interact with them. Works good, I think.

Carolynn

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Mon Apr 04, 2011 6:32 am

Something I hear over and over is that women are more attuned to the needs of others than men are. I imagine a good place to start acting like a girl might be helping your mom around the house.