Hello everyone

[Anthony Simon]

I'm glad things are better, Sara. It's possible your husband could change his mind. The support group sounds a very good idea. I think the vast majority of CDs don't transition - but maybe there's something in the water where you live .

[Lincoln]

Sara, I just found out after 42 years of being married to the love of my life, that he is a CD. I am still in shock but trying to deal with it. It's not easy. I am seeing a therapist would really need a local support group in my area to help me through this.

[Paula G]

Lincoln, I don't know where abouts you are but there is an active organisation in the UK that may be of help Women of the Beaumont Society http://www.wobs.org.uk/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false; there may also be some local groups who meet up. If it is any help you are not alone, it is amazing how we manage to keep this secret from those we love most, but the discovery can be worked through, my wife and I are going through something similar at the moment, (after 20 years of marriage) we are about to start working with a counsellor from Relate http://www.relate.org.uk/home/index.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false; I am sure that this will help us with this and some other issues we have within our marriage.

One thing I have learnt doesn't work is the ignore it and it will go away approach, for us even just agreeing to deal with it together has helped improve our situation.