CDs & SOs- what do you borrow/not borrow from each other

[Jadeanne]

I'm putting this post in this section because it's a question for both CDs and their supporting SOs.

My wife and I wear the same sizes for most things, except shoes. She says I can borrow any clothing I want unless she has it on right then .

We have a shared collection of nightgowns - there are a couple she gave me that she found less comfortable for her (but I like them).

I can fit into all of her tops, skirts, dresses, and jumpers. Her pants and shorts fit, but for me, pants are for boy mode. Sunday night's outfit is almost always what she wore to church in the morning.

The rule we have on new clothes bought for her is that she gets to wear them first.

When I buy femme clothing, I usually get her input first and I generally don't stray too far from her taste for dress/skirt/top. The exceptions are animal prints - she wouldn't buy any on her own, but I like them. I have a couple of very inexpensive animal skirts she doesn't borrow (but she did wear my animal print shell top once).

She does on occaision borrow a top or skirt from me (most of them were originally hers).

When it comes to lingerie, I was borrowing her full slips a lot but now my collection is slowly increasing.

My bra collection started with her cast offs (she doesn't like underwires but has borrowed back a Bali underwire once or twice). Once in a while I wear one of hers (and even helped break in a new one once).

I hope to see replies from both CDs & SOs.


Jadeanne

[Carol Ann]

Jadeanne,
Oh what a wonderfull susitions you are in I wish I were in your shoes. No I can not wear my wifes cloths as they are way to big on me so I am forced to buy my own things. The last time I wore someone else cloths was when I was a teenager and my mother things fit me perfect even her shoes. Oh for the good old days, Carol Ann

[Jadeanne]

Carol Anne,

I'm sorry that you aren't as fortunate as me when it comes to matching wife's clothing sizes, but as I read in another of your posts, we are both fortunate in having loving, supporting wives. I think we agree that is much more important.

There are a few areas where I'm pretty much on my own in regard to sharing things with my wife:

Hosiery - my legs are longer than hers, the main factor in our 9 inch height difference, so I would stretch out pantyhose too long for her. She only dresses up with pantyhose for church and other special occasions. That's OK, my favorite hosiery is gartered stockings which I get for myself. When her pantyhose gets a visible defect, then she gives it to me and I might wear it a few more times before I discard them.

Shoes - her feet are several sizes smaller than mine, and she has only one pair of shoes with any kind of heel, for special occaisions only. I have 6 pairs of femme shoes, one pair of flats, the others with heels from 1 1/4 to 2 inches, high enough for someone 5'11 without heels.

Earrings - She has pierced ears (since age 16) and these are by far her favorite jewelry. I don't have pierced ears and have no plans to do so. I find clip earrings OK, have several pairs including some as gifts from my wife. I once saw in a catalog adaptors for turning pierced earrings into clips, but she said she wasn't happy with that idea, so I left that idea alone. I do borrow necklaces and bracelets from her, and she has given me a few as gifts.

Foundation Garments - She doesn't wear those kind of things and doesn't want to, even gave me the only pair of control panties she had. I buy my own longline bras, waist cinchers, open bottom girdles, garter belts, and now I'm awaiting the delivery of a front lacing corset.

Others, please add to this thread.

Jadeanne

[Carol Ann]

Jadeanne, Sounds as if you have a very nice wardobe. Mine is still growing and the wife saids I have more cloths then her. I too like a garderbelt and stockings but I prefur skirts above the knee and to much is exposed when I sit down and the wife tells me that isn't lady like. She is a good teacher and will go out of her way to correct my wrongs, " if you are going to dress as a women do it properly". I too buy almost all of my clothing except when the wife surprises me and buy me something. In fact she went to JC Penney clearence sale and bought me a wonderfull dress , She saids"this will look really good on you and will go with the new heels you just purchased". Funny with all her correcting of me and wanting me to look the part as a proper lady she still will not let me go out in public, I think she is afraid some one on the street may see me and I don't believe she could handle that. Now she will let me go out dress if it's to a Tri-Ess meeting which is out of town. Do you and your wife go out when you are dressed?. Just wondering, Carol Ann

[Jadeanne]

Carol Ann,

Thanks for the kind words.

I stay in the house when I'm dressed. That's not really a goal for me now.

I'm still going slowly into the rudiments of makeup. Part of it is the time factor - time doing makeup & nails, then removing them cut into my internet time. My wife doesn't use makeup and she doesn't have a place set up for applying/removing.

Right now, doing makeup involves getting out the makeup from the storage drawer in the bedroom, putting it on while standing at the mirror at the bathroom sink, then stowing the makeup back away. Removal/cleanup I do in the bathroom.

I am working on setting up a makeup place in a spare bedroom. We get overnight visitors very seldom and have enough advance notice so I can put away things where they won't be noticed by visitors.

I like a variety of hemlines. The highest hemline I usually wear is just slightly above my knees. My wife generally prefers hemlines just below her knees, which come to an inch or 2 above my knees. One thing I like about skirts is that I can adjust the length a little bit by wearing it higher or lower. Sometimes I wear them a little high so a little hint of lace from my slip is below the hem.

A while ago my wife got a nice new sewing machine and last week I assembled a sewing work table from Penney's, so the clothing will start coming out soon. She used to sew a lot of her own clothes, so she knows what she's doing. I remember 20 plus years ago, she made PJs/nightgowns for her sisters and families for Christmas. This sewing machine has an embroidery unit with computer interface (I'm working on learning the software).

I do most of my clothing shopping online. The closeout pages of Old Pueblo Traders, Blair, Lane Bryant, and National are my favorite hunting grounds, along with National and One Hanes Place. My favorite brick & mortar stores are Burlington Coat Factory, Kmart, & Walmart.

I'm very price concious, but I get great satisfaction from being able to get something that was otherwise out of my price range, or be able to get several items for the same amount of money.

So far, the most I have spent for any femme thing is around $50 for a front lacing corset that I ordered a few days ago. The next highest was about $30 each for 2 of my wigs.

My wife doesn't really drill me on feminine deportment, but she is supportive and does critique my outfits and says that I usually coordinate things well. Once in a while she says that something looks better on me than it does her.

Where are your favorite shopping places?

Jadeanne

[Jadeanne]

I thought I would bring this thread back up from the depths - there have been lots of new members since the last posting to this thread.

I no longer follow my tradition of wearing my wife's church outfits on Sunday nights anymore now that I have a larger wardrobe. Twice so far, she has worn one of MY dresses to church. I feel honored that our tastes are close enough for her borrow some things I bought for myself.

At night, we both wear nightgowns, sometimes matching styles, sometimes not.

My wife who usually doesn't like to shop now does a bit more and we shop together. She's now a bit more willing to try a different style/color knowing that if she doesn't like it, I might.

How many more of you members have supporting SOs, and what do you share?

Jadeanne

[Honey(SO)]

Well we are different. Different sizes, tastes. So my DH borrows none of my clothing. I am more than happy to shop for and with him and I buy him all sorts of things. He has borrowed a couple of my summer shirts since our weather has changed so much, 89 today. But since he is 8" taller than me the shirts are too short .
He only has winter clothing so far. If he borrows a shirt he asks first and makes sure it goes into the laundry.
We each have our own collection of nightgowns, bras, panties, corset, garters and such. I feel sexy in mine and he in his.

Now in the past he always raided my clothing, this was before he told me, but I knew someone was always in my stuff and it made me mad. So that became one of our first agreements to stay out of my things unless he asks first.
We enjoy dressing for each other, but for us sharing does not work.
Honey

[Jadeanne]

Honey (SO),

Thank you for your post. It's great that you accept (or at least tolerate) your husband's dressing. It shows that the most important thing with CDs and SOs is to communicate and have mutually agreed on boundaries. Different sizes and tastes among spouses are probably a lot more common than the lucky ones who can share a warbrobe.

My wife is about 9 inches shorter than me, but her legs are very short and if they were the same length as mine, she would be almost as tall. Most of my tops/skirts/dresses are ones that my wife said she would think about borrowing some time.

How about you other forum members? We would love to hear from you.

Jadeanne

[Curly(SO)]

Ed is welcome to borrow whatever he wants from me, and I have on occasion borrowed from him. There is no way that Ed can fit into my dresses though, as his chest is eight inches broader than mine. My sweaters cling to his chest nice!