My New Classification

[Martha G]

I now classify myself as a transgender woman.

Though I don't dress all of the time, I enjoy my feminine side.

One day hopefully I will be able to dress full time and become a full time woman.

[Anthony Simon]

It does make sense you should see yourself as TG, Martha - Only you can know whether going full time will work for you. It's a hell of a big deal.

[Martha G]

Yes, I am definitely more than just a cross dresser.

I feel more and more like a woman every day.

However, if the circumstances are right I would like to dress, act and be a woman 24/7

[Anne Bonny]

Yeah...I am hovering somewhere around where you are...I purchased a book You and Your Gender Identity A Guide To Discovery by Dara Hoffman-Fox LPC about $33.94 delivered off Amazon...and have started to work with some of the exercises and tools...it is a workbook.

Like yourself I am a bit confused...is this Gender...I mean I truly believe I fit the description Gender Fluid that seems to fit me so well...yet I could be just a cross dresser and the drive to dress comes and goes? It is maddening that no one can take a blood sample and give us a diagnosis...Psychiatry is such a crock it is just so very subjective with their tested lists of questions which are supposedly validated and tested their selves. ??????

I am able to dress whenever I please, I do not really go out only rarely and have not picked up a bull horn climbed up on the roof yet to yell at the top of my lungs..."Here I Am World!!!"

But I am definitely very very calm, pleased and comfortable here at home and with my inner circle and even talking to others about it all.

Suppose there are no definite answers. I am at my correct weight, my hair is now long enough to achieve a definite feminine style, make up skills are great, legs shaved, toes polished and plan to have my ears pierced when the time is right most definitely once my wife is finally gone and her mother is no longer coming over every other week. Other possibilities are lazer hair removal...hormones!? Surgery!? those last two/three seem unlikely but who knows if I meet the right woman?

[Requal Jo]

One step at a time Martha. Slow and steady wins the race. As you get comfortable and confident with each step, the next will follow. Congratulations on your progress to date.

[Anne Bonny]

As someone suggested to me...the true test would be to purchase some boxes and wardrobe boxes so that you can clear out your closet and your drawers of all male clothing including your shoes...then perhaps rent a small storage area some distance from your home so that you no longer have convenient access to them. Perhaps give the key to someone else to hold and they will not return it to you for at least a year for any reason. At some point you could even donate them to good will if you find they are inappropriate for you. Put on your bra and breast forms and start wearing them at least 17 hours a day full time. You should also put on your make up as part of your morning routine and only take it off at bedtime. Sit whenever you use the facilities 100% of the time. Keep your legs and underarms free of hair and do not cut your hair only visiting a salon about once every 3-6 months. Then? Well then you simply live...Pay the bills, maintain the house, go out and enjoy doing whatever you like to do. 

This is not a test I would be able to pass. I would eventually be in the men's section to purchase what I needed so that I could then come back and spend more time to buy a small male wardrobe. This is why I classify myself as gender fluid the feminine comes but it is not consistent even though it may come every day for days...at some point in that day I relax into guy-wear, shorts and a shirt with deck shoes. I have always found at some point....I can be just as bored as a girl as I can as a guy, that the girl and the guy inside come and go but at different times.

Transgender formally is feeling your gender is the opposite of your sex 100% of the time leading to dysphoria and a realization that your body and your brain do not match and the only way to fix it is through gender affirming surgery and procedures.

I know I have been this way my entire life, I have a feminine wardrobe that matches that of my male wardrobe, the gender does continue to sway one way then the other but is not consistent. I will have my ears pierced...I may look into facial hair removal...laser...electrolysis....but further than that...jumping through the hoops to go on hormones is realistically just not something that is right for myself, probably never will be. I really cannot say that I am Trans...Transgender...trans sexual... I just have a variant gender and because it is inconsistent I am where I am supposed to be. Wonder if there is such a thing as being semi transgender because that is something I can fully claim to be at this point in my life. I am MALE|GENDER VARIANT|HETEROSEXUAL MALE. Sadly for myself it is very unlikely I will be able to find a woman who would be able to fully embrace and want to be with me because of all of this. It is unlikely really.

Oh well...I am happy if you have found what is right for yourself...we all need to arrive at who we really are so that we can live as they say... who we are or live as our authentic self.

[Martha G]

Yes.

Developing as a transgender woman is just the thing for me.

I enjoy my feminine side so much. I thoroughly enjoy dressing as and acting as a woman.

I just love being a woman.

[Anne Bonny]

I am torn between the two binaries unable to be androgynous and while I spend most of my time on the male side am not able to be male or female full time. I am and will always reside primarily on my male side but I will always swing to my feminine side.

If you are able to be one or the other full time for the rest of your life and if this is who you are I envy you being genderfluid is maddening but it is who I am and will always be.

[Ms. Erin]

I am happy for you Martha. You know for yourself how you feel and what is best. Hugs dear.

[Martha G]

Oh thank you.

Yes I feel very comfortable as am woman.

That is my goal to develop myself into a woman 23/7.one day.