More than sexual.....

[JodiYardley]

I recently retired so I have been dressing almost daily. I have also noticed that dressing and being feminine is ALL that I think about. I have been dressing since early teens mostly because of sexual urges, but now I really just enjoy the thoughts and feelings of being dressed and feminine.

I still enjoy sex being dressed but that's not my top priority anymore, does anyone else feel this way?

[Anne Bonny]

I do. I have after a long journey finally I believe come to the proper perspective on this. I am a Man physically and mentally but from time to time that being mostly part of every day I am nearly or somewhat Bi-gender. This has nothing to do with my sexuality... I love and am attracted only to women, I am a widow and we had two sons together, I have never ever had any thought of being with another who is male, being heterosexual this makes me cringe in revulsion even when I am feeling very feminine and female. Like yourself, I have divorced my dressing from sexual desire which is a part of life for all of us but has nothing at all to do with simply being a part time woman or man.

[Ralitsa]

oh yes, absolutely.
I have not been involved in any sort of relationship for quite a few years, so there's nothing sexual about my habits anymore. But I do spend a lot of time and effort thinking about fashion and clothes and shoes, shopping, etc. One of my most enjoyable routines is going to the salon and getting my hair cut with a mani, pedi, and facial.
I don't usually use make-up, but at times for special occasions I do enjoy taking the time, going through the whole routine of getting made up, putting on a new dress and going out for some event. It's just fun to do something special like that.
On a normal day I pick out my outfits just based on the mood I'm in, what color I want to wear - and of course the weather. My thought processes now when I'm considering an outfit is about how cold it is outside, then what colors and styles I've worn on the last few days, whether there is anything going on that day at work that I should take into account, and last whether I will need to wear anything particular on following days. Because I don't want to wear the same colors 2 or more days in a row, or the same shoes, or earrings. And of course one affects all the others.
I don't know why I find all of this interesting. I guess it's just that: some people do and some people don't. Plenty of people are happy just putting on some sweats and tennis shoes and shoving on a baseball cap without taking any more trouble than that. And there are times when I don't have the time or the inclination to do more than that either. But usually I do like putting together a nice look for the day. And there is nothing sexual about it.

[Requal Jo]

There is nothing sexual about being Requal. Requal dresses because she enjoys the freedom, relaxation and desire to be in touch with her feminine self.

[Bernice]

Awhile back I had a little medical problem. I thought I'd die without sexual relief, but, frankly, it wasn't an issue. I dressed much like any senior citizen from the 1950s, and life went on. The medical problem cleared up. I dress to be me, and not to have sex. That perhaps wasn't 100% true 55 years ago, because I was wearing a dress when my body came of age.

Hugs,

Bernice