I thought that after reading all of the entries in this thread that it might be worth pointing out that most of the “social rules” that we seem to invoke in our society, come from or are related to “monotheism” and any number of particular organized religions.
It is not hard to understand that a parent may resort to rejection of their own children when they do not conform to the construct that they employ in everyday living. This construct, is more specifically, the social rules that we all are subject to in living in our present social structure.
The word “Taboo” comes to mind.
Main Entry: 1ta·boo
Variant(s): also ta·bu /t&-'bü, ta-/
Function: adjective
Etymology: Tongan tabu
Date: 1777
1 : forbidden to profane use or contact because of what are held to be dangerous supernatural powers
2 a : banned on grounds of morality or taste <the subject is taboo> b : banned as constituting a risk <the area beyond is taboo, still alive with explosives -- Robert Leckie>
I think the description,; “banned on grounds of morality or taste,” demonstrates our current thought process about the T* family in general. If your Mother accepts or rejects you, it is a matter of her own decision process in weighing what you do vs. what you are or think yourself to be. A well known consideration is that women (gg) giving birth to a society has it’s privilege. To accept or reject an idea on social grounds, seems to bow to this birth rite as a gendered woman.
Take note that the word “taboo” came into official recognition around 1777. Not that is wasn’t around before that date you understand, just that it was included into the dictionaries of the day around 1777. So, there is a little light at the end of the tunnel. Perhaps, T* terms will eventually all be included in official recognition and therefore the existence and rights of those related to those descriptions will be better affirmed in our society in the future.
It is interesting to note that for the most part, the USA is a “melting pot” of social description. We all try to lay down our verbal swords and get along, while still in Europe, Countries continue to make every effort to identify their culture as specific and individual from others. How is it that we in the T* family expect others to accept us, when for the most part, they cannot accept each other? Strange ideas often lead to more questions than answers. Perhaps we are just a little too strange still even for some parents that feel closest to us. This would explain their aloof behavior and still their love for us as their children.
I often think about a well worn phrase, “having your cake and eating it too.” There is nothing like being accepted by non-T* people! Especially in-person and enfemme, and they know about your alter ego daytime birthday suit… self ….which you present the majority of the time. Mom’s unite and give your kids a hug today, hugs are good!
to just talk about fasion though I am very limited in that subject.
So for you I wish the always the best. 
. Carol Ann