THE OFFICIAL: Quote of the Day!!! #1 *LOCKED*

[Sally]

Quote by Carrie FISHER ( writer, actress daughter of Debbie Reynolds and Eddie Fisher)........ "Here's how men think. Sex, work - (and those two are reversible depending on age) - sex, work, food, sports and lastly, begrudgingly, relationships.
And here's how women think. Relationships, relationships, relationships, work, sex, shopping, weight, food."

[Paige]

This is from the movie "Shall We Dance". Susan Sarandon is replying to the detective she has hired in answer to the question of "Why do we get married?"

Susan:

"Why is it, do you think, that people get married?
Because we need a witness to our lives.
There’s a billion people on the planet – what does any one life really mean?
But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything – the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it, all the time, every day. You’re saying your life will not go unnoticed, because I will notice it - your life will not go unwitnessed, because I will be your witness."

This may not be the only reason we get married but it is one of the reasons, I believe.

Paige

[Jamie Ann]

Susan [Sarandon]:

"Why is it, do you think, that people get married? Because we need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet – what does any one life really mean?

This may not be the only reason we get married but it is one of the reasons, I believe.

Paige

     Money, social status, getting ahead in a career, companionship, convincing others that one is not gay, and regular sex would be among the many other reasons. There actually are about 6.4 billion people on the planet, and each of them must find meaning in her or his own life—or it will not occur. Susan Sarandon’s statement undoubtedly resonates with many Americans, but others would argue that a partner couldn’t give life meaning for you. If you have found something worth doing on your own, which does give your life meaning beyond yourself, then maybe you have a fighting chance of being a positive factor in someone else’s life. Country & Western songs are notorious for their theme that finding the right person will make one’s life happy and fulfilling, but the real challenge is make one’s life happy and fulfilling and then find the right person. In Dr. David Burns’ book, Intimate Connections, he pointed out that most people who insist, “I have so much to give someone!” actually often are putting a socially agreeable spin on what they really mean, which is, “I want so much, and someone should give it to me!” As an actress, I greatly admire Susan Sarandon, but some of what her characters say is aimed at appealing to popular sentiments that may or may not be valid.

     I find this post interesting because it actually does have some implications for crossdressers, who also are seeking a sense of self-worth and the other things Susan Sarandon’s character seems to have had in mind. Neediness is understandable in CD’s, but it has a way of trapping us. As Lacey Leigh wrote in her book, Out & About: The Emancipated Crossdresser, those who just want some low-profile sympathy from those willing to provide it “aren’t generating much of a legacy for [anyone else]. Must every new generation of the transgendered fight the same battles?”

[Yasky(SO)]

A beautiful sentiment, disected to death!

[Jamie Ann]

A beautiful sentiment, disected to death!

It is more beautiful superficially than when critically analyzed. Susan Sarandon’s character was expressing the idea that we can fulfill ourselves by finding someone to make us happy. The opposite is more true. Work on yourself first. We need to find some happiness before we find someone to accompany us on the rest of our journey. I was disagreeing with the idea, not dissecting it to learn its mysteries!

[Carolynn]

"Never buy a portable TV on the sidewalk from a man who's out of breath and sweating!! "

Anonymous

[Yasky(SO)]

And the day came
when the risk to remain
tight in a bud
was more painful
than the risk it took
to blossom.

- Anais Nin
US (French-born) author & diarist 1903-1977)

[Paige]

Very Nice Yasky

Love Paige

[Loretta Ann]

You can map out a fight plan or a life plan.
But when the action starts
you are down to your reflexes
that's where your roadwork shows.

If you cheated on that in the dark in the morning
You're getting found out now in the bright lights.

~former heavyweight boxing champion, Joe Frazier~

[Carolynn]

Some people are going to leave a mark on this world, while others will only leave a stain.

Annon.

Must be about politicians.

[Kersten Lee]

Carolyn,

I found that very funny today!

Kersten

[Kyra]

I find television very educating. Every time somebody turns on the set, I go into the other room and read a book. - Groucho Marx

[Loretta Ann]

At the Darkest Moment
======================

One thing that comes out in myths
is that at the bottom of the abyss
comes the voice of salvation.

The darkest moment
is the moment when the real message of transformation
is going to come.


At the darkest moment comes the light.

~Joseph Campbell~

[Carolynn]

"Human Beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experiences of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so."

Douglas Adams

[Carolynn]

"Money isn't every'ting. There's credit cards, money orders, travelers checks and vonderful gentlemen who will buy you shtings."

Eva Gabor